Are you wondering how to ask someone to be a bridesmaid? You’ve come to the right place! After you’ve set the date (and start counting down the days), asking be my bridesmaid is another thing to tackle. Bridesmaids are probably the easiest crew to assemble, since you have been planning this wedding in your head — or on your Pinterest boards — for awhile now. ;) To help, we’re sharing some tips on how to ask someone to be a bridesmaid, as well as twenty-six be my bridesmaid gift ideas to make it official! Enjoy!
How to Ask Someone to Be a Bridesmaid
First things first: how to ask someone to be a bridesmaid. There are twenty-six gift ideas here, but you still need to know how to ask. You can ask your bridesmaids in a variety of ways, but we suggest the following: ask in person, give a small gift, be sincere, and write a hand-written letter telling them all the reasons why you want them to be a bridesmaid and why you love them and why they’re the best friend/sister/cousin a girl could have. For added fun, throw a little be my bridesmaid party and invite your girls to it as a more formal gathering. Assuming they all say yes, this is a great opportunity to share some first thoughts on the bridesmaid dresses (see what they like, don’t like), colors (share some ideas you have), location, date, and start chatting about the bachelorette party! What a great way to kick off the wedding fun. Keep it informal and fun! Dinner and cocktails/mocktails at a local restaurant, tv marathon-ing at home, or even a coffee run! There are no rules here.
On to the list!
“Act Surprised” Card
Cute! By Spade Stationery.
Send an be my bridesmaid box (or be my maid of honor box) in the mail to really surprise her! Try Surprise Box as one awesome resource.
Inside the box, you get a card, scratch off card asking “be my bridesmaid”, confetti shooter, gummy candies, Essie nail polish, a handkerchief, and beautiful earrings! I’ve seen the Maids to Honor box in person and it is gorgeous!
Ask be my bridesmaid with… cookies! Because, cookies. That’s why. You can even give her a little preview of your wedding colors! By Not Betty Cookies.
Ask them to be my bridesmaid with these cute dress photo frames. Each one is engraved with her name, “be my bridesmaid” at the top, and a sketch of the bridesmaid dress! After the wedding, she can put a photo of the two of you from the big day. It’s a perfect keepsake. By Prince Whitaker.
One of these bridesmaid emergency kits will be a surefire sign you need her by your side, with all the accoutrements that come along with it! By FINCH and FOX.
Flannel bridesmaid shirts are THE THING this year. And not just for fall or winter weddings, either. Get one personalized for each bridesmaid to wear while getting ready. The buttons down the front make it easy to put on her bridesmaid dress without messing up her hair and makeup. By City and Salvage. Toss in some bridesmaid yoga pants, if you’d like, and it’s the perfect getting ready (and loungin’) outfit.
Sip on some sparkling cider or wine with these bridesmaid glasses! By Waterfall Designs.
Tell her there’s absolutely NO ugly crying — haha — with one of these pretties (from Fairgoods)…
… or a bit more formal, like one of these handkerchiefs from Printmade Studio. Your choice!
Ask your bridesmaid to be in your wedding with a cute illustration! We adore this one by Lauraley Illustration.
And I love these, too!
Okay, this one is adorable: give her a bridesmaid jersey with her name on the back AND the number corresponding to the number of years you’ve known each other! Cute idea by Lulu Bean Design Co.
And J also stands for bridesmaid jewelry! Read: 100 Best Jewelry Gifts for Bridesmaids, since we’ve covered that one pretty recently. :)
You’ve seen a “tie the knot” bracelet before, but you’ve never seen one like this from Laosborn! It features her initial on one side with a delicate knot on the other. These bracelets are a cute way to ask bridesmaids to help you tie the knot!
Here’s an example of it being worn:
I spotted this pretty over at Oatmeal Lace Design and can’t get over how beautiful it is!
It includes her monogram stitched so sweetly in the corner.
A cute glass for sippin’? Yes, please! By Let’s Tie The Knot.
N is for Necklace, and this one is perfect for asking her to be a bridesmaid! By Petal and Paperie.
Okay, so bridesmaid onesies — also known as fleece loungers — are apparently a thing right now, just like the flannels. And if you’re someone who likes to lounge around the house or you just want a super fun hashtag on the back to wreak havoc about town at your bachelorette party, this would be the thing to do it! And here I thought full-zip onesies were just for my little guys! Hahaha. #talkaboutcozy #wantone #needone
These (below) are by TETA Apparel:
And these (below) are by Gifts for the Girls:
P is obviously for bridesmaid pjs. And these are the cutest ones I’ve ever seen! By Sandy Waters Store.
Q is for… Quartz! And I can’t think of any possible way someone would say no to quartz. This quartz and agate — um, perfect combination, I say! — necklace by Timber and Chain is a beautiful be my bridesmaid gift idea.
How fun are these scratch off cards by Inklings Paperie? Very. Send ’em in the mail for some snail mail cheer!
Honestly, you can’t go wrong for five bucks! And you can pick any color hair-ties you like best! By LottieShoppe.
We couldn’t resist this adorable unicorn piñata from LulaFlora. Fill it with candies, lip balm, a “be my bridesmaid” note, glitter, confetti, cold hard cash — whatever you want!
A cute personalized tumbler = always a welcomed gift. Who doesn’t like to stay hydrated in style? By Happymail Vinyl.
Wine or Champagne Label
Give ’em a cute wine bottle or champagne bottle with a custom label affixed to the front! By Pink Champagne Paper.
eXtra Comfy Sweatpants
Yoga Style Bridesmaid Tanks
These cute y-back tanks are perfect for
yoga lounging. Don’t be ashamed, my yoga pants and tanks never make it to yoga, either! Darn. ;) By Hello Handpressed.
Zip Up Bag
Toss in a few essentials: lip balm, mascara, a wedding day emergency kit, gift card, etc. By Posh Boutique GA.
Be My Bridesmaid Gift Ideas
So, there you have it: how to ask someone to be a bridesmaid with twenty-six cute gifts from A to Z! Which one is your favorite? I’m still laughing about the onesies, but I honestly know they’re probably SO comfy. I really love the leather bag, I’m obsessed with the quartz, and I want a flannel shirt! But enough about me — what do you think?
P.S. Can’t get enough? You’ll find more bridesmaid gift ideas here: 50 Most Unique Bridesmaid Gift Ideas