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How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z

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Planning your wedding doesn’t have to be stressful. At Emmaline Bride, our goal is to help you plan a beautiful wedding without the stress. I mean, it’s supposed to be fun, right? And we know that if you’re a happy bride, you’ll have an easier time planning your Best Day Ever. To help, we’ve made this helpful guide to keep things in perspective. You’ll also want to grab this and this, since they’ll outline tons of wedding ideas (without overwhelming you. Promise.) Read on to begin…

Happy Bride: A to Z

Want to be a happy bride? Just follow these simple rules, below.

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photo: closer to love photography | via style me pretty

Ask for help when you need it.

And, appreciate help when you get it.

Be good to yourself.

You, beautiful you. You are perfect just the way you are. Don’t feel pressure to suddenly be a certain size, to spend a certain amount of money, or to look a particular way. Your fiancee proposed to YOU, because he wants to marry YOU. Stay true to yourself.

Continue doing regular things.

Watch your shows. Go out with friends. Take your fiance on regular date nights. Read. Exercise. Go for a walk. Work. Accomplish goals. Don’t let wedding planning consume you. You’ll have more fun with it if you don’t let it “take over” your regular day-to-day.

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Hey, unexpected stuff is going to happen. Rolling with it and laughing? That’s how you stay happy.

Enjoy the little, fleeting moments.

Ah, those sweet little moments you get to experience while you plan (and during the wedding day itself) go by so fast. Savor them! The proposal. The engagement. The engagement photos. Picking out invitations. The dress. Fun times with bridesmaids. The list goes on and on. Bottom line? Enjoy it all.

Happy Bride! photo: jose villa | How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/happy-bride-a-to-z/

photo: jose villa | via style me pretty

Find bridesmaid dresses that aren’t ridiculously expensive.

Happy Bridesmaids = Happy Bride. So, when you pick out a bridesmaid dress that isn’t super pricey, they’ll love you for it. While you’re at it, no bow on the butt. And nothing too short, showy, low cut, or unforgiving in material. Your lovely ladies will thank you for it.

Give thoughtful, useful gifts.

Give gifts with heart. Buy handmade. Support small businesses. Be thoughtful in gift-giving, whether it is for wedding party attendants, your parents, vendors, guests (favors), or gifts for your future spouse. Thoughtful gifts are more memorable and, therefore, rule.

High five your flower girls and ring bearer.

Hey, being the little guy or gal isn’t easy — and walking down that aisle is intimidating. Say good job and give them an awesome gift or toy for after ceremony (even if they didn’t quite make it down the aisle without sobbing or running away).

bridesmaid robes by Doie | How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/happy-bride-a-to-z/

robes: doie, photo: escreation

Invest in a pretty bag for your essentials.

Being prepared for wedding day emergencies will keep you happy all day long. A pretty purse (like this one we spotted here) filled with 7 things you MUST pack in your wedding bag is all you need.

white lace wedding clutch | How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/happy-bride-a-to-z/

good marvin

Jot down important must-haves.

Make a list of three most important things things to include at your wedding. Have your fiance do the same, and then make sure you include all of these on your big day.

bride dancing | How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/happy-bride-a-to-z/
photo: jesi haack

Keep things in perspective.

It can be really easy to let things get out of control while wedding planning. When you start to freak out because you don’t have these with ribbons tied on the backs of each one, STOP. Ask yourself, do I really need this? Do I really want to spend money on this? Will this make a HUGE difference in the quality of our day? If not, feel free to skip it.

Listen.

Listen to your fiance when he tells you he wants a groom’s cake, or when he wants a certain song played at the reception. Listen when he doesn’t want to spend the entire night talking about color palettes because he wants to curl up and watch a movie with you. Listen to your bridesmaids when they try to talk you into picking one dress over another. You’ll learn more by listening.

Make lists and set realistic goals.

Making lists (and using checklists, like this free printable checklist, will keep you organized. Organized brides = less stressed out brides = happiness. Also, set a few goals along the way (like this week, I’ll order cake; next week, I’ll decide what shoes to wear). Don’t overload yourself.

Nix the negativity.

Those people on your Facebook wall that are always ranting about negative things? Hide them. Those wedding forums where people are overwhelming you by obsessing over their own, weird wedding goals? Stop reading them. Instead, surround yourself with positive people. You’ll radiate positivity, too.

Order something special for the honeymoon.

Do you know anyone who doesn’t get happy over new pjs, a new robe, or pretty underwear? Me either. There’s no better time than now to order it for your amazing honeymoon vacay.

Plan surprises for the groom.

A new watch delivered to his room before the ceremony? A special message sewn to the back of his tie? A pair of socks so he doesn’t get cold feet? A note that says, “I can’t wait to kiss you” delivered to him by the flower girl? (Swoon.) These are just a few cute ways to surprise the groom. These sweet surprises will make you giddy with excitement. It’s like Jimmy Durante said: “Make someone happy… and you will be happy, too“.

cant wait to kiss you | How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/happy-bride-a-to-z/
via pinterest

That’s one of my favorite songs ever.

Or this “can’t wait to be your wife” card. So. cute.

cant wait to be your wife | How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/happy-bride-a-to-z/

storey shop

Quit worrying so much.

There’s so much pressure on one day — and there’s bound to be a few unexpected twists along the way. I heard a quote that worrying is like standing outside with an umbrella waiting for it to rain. Believe it will be everything you’ve dreamed and it will be!

Register and have fun doing it.

Registering for your wedding is one of the most exciting things ever. It’s also a fun way to bond with your spouse-to-be and learn even more about their hobbies, style, and favorite things. Pair it with a dinner out and make a date of it. Oh, and when it starts to get tiring, QUIT. Start again another day.

Snap plenty of photos of everyone at your wedding.

I love this photo of all of your guests! Add it to your list.

a picture of everyone at your wedding | How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/happy-bride-a-to-z/

photo: tessa barton

Try on tons of wedding gowns.

But do it for fun. You’ll eventually find it, but until you do… there’s no other time in life to try on beautiful, intricately made gowns with the possibility of ordering one to be custom made for you. And that’s pretty amazing in itself.

flowy wedding dress | How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/happy-bride-a-to-z/

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Use the newlywed title to your advantage.

On your honeymoon, don’t be afraid to tell people you’re celebating. When A and I went on ours, we got an upgrade for our rental car (oh, hey, red convertible!) and a free dinner and other fun festive things.

wifey tee | How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/happy-bride-a-to-z/

deighan design

It’s not about getting stuff, either: it’s about the fun that comes with being the newlyweds! Finally. So don’t be afraid to tell people. People can be so awesome: we had complete strangers offering to snap photos of us (it’s important to get some of just the two of you, instead of awful selfies that are too close up or cut off your faces), along with sharing sweet words of advice. I swear, complete strangers + kindness = the best.

just married sign | How to Be a Happy Bride from A to Z via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/happy-bride-a-to-z/

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Veer away from too many DIY projects.

DIY projects are fun (or they can be), but too many of them and not much time to complete them all? That’s just a headache. Pick a few that you want to do and start on them well in advance, if DIY is your thing. If not, delegate the tasks to someone else — then you’ll have even less on your plate to worry about.

Wear a new perfume.

When you wear a new perfume for the wedding, the scent will forever remind you of your big day. Do this — it’s such a great idea.

(e)Xercise.

Hey, those endorphins get kicking and happiness takes over. Exercise is my go-to for instant happy.

Yes to Pampering.

Pamper yourself. Get a massage. Spoil yourself on the morning of the wedding with the works: full hair, makeup, nails, toenails. Buy a gorgeous pair of heels.

Zen = Gratefulness.

You’ll find your zen in gratefulness. After all, they say grateful people are the happiest people; that means grateful brides are the happiest brides.

What would you add to the list? Are you a stressed out bride, or a happy bride? How can we help?

xo
-E.

What to Wear Instead of Veil for Reception? – Ask EB

Hi, loves! Emma here and we are bringing you a new Ask Emmaline question today, one that we’ve received more than once — and for good reason! Brides who don’t want to wear a wedding veil (or simply something different for the reception) always want to see some veil alternatives. And they want to know if they have to even wear a veil at all. Remember, a bride doesn’t have to do anything. We are firm believers in “your wedding, your way” here at Emmaline Bride and when it comes down to it, you should do anything you want to do. At the end of the day, you can say you did it YOUR way, not anyone else’s. You only get one wedding day, so you might as well make it everything you’ve dreamed it would be. Here’s what Shannon wrote us:

“I can’t decide if I should wear a veil for the ceremony and reception. Do you have any ideas for what to wear instead of a veil at the reception?”

Great question, Shannon! When you’re deciding what to wear instead of a veil (even for just the reception), consider your hairstyle. Will you be wearing an updo? Will you wear your hair down? Will you pick this amazing Gibson Tuck, rock a top knot, or maybe some boho-inspired braids? Whatever you decide, do a trial run and wear a veil alternative with it so you know ahead of time how it will look all put together.

What to Wear Instead of Veil

Some of our favorite veil alternatives include hair pins, hair flowers, hair combs, fascinators, or headbands (you can find all of these in The Marketplace. And, these are just a few suggestions — there are a dozen more! Today we’re sharing a handful of favorite veil alternatives from Fancie Strands to inspire you. Which veil alternative is most similar to your style?

7 Wedding Veil Alternative Ideas

1. Rhinestone + Lace Hair Flower

rhinestone lace hair flower | via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/what-to-wear-instead-of-veil/ - What to Wear Instead of Veil

2. Hair Pins

Rhinestone Champagne Blush Wedding Hair Clips by Fanciestrands | via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/what-to-wear-instead-of-veil/ - What to Wear Instead of Veil

3. Ivory Chiffon Hair Flower

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4. Tulle Headband

tulle headband | via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/what-to-wear-instead-of-veil/ - What to Wear Instead of Veil

5. Pearl Hair Flower

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6. Gold Sequin Hair Piece

gold sequin bridal hair piece | via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/what-to-wear-instead-of-veil/ - What to Wear Instead of Veil

7. Ivory Flower Fascinator

ivory flower fascinator | via http://emmalinebride.com/bride/what-to-wear-instead-of-veil/ - What to Wear Instead of Veil

8. Bridal Headpiece

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You can see these and more over at Fancie Strands.

xo
-E.

How To: Buying Engagement Ring on Etsy / Online

Are you thinking about buying an engagement ring online? Here’s what you need to know to do it right. Be sure to read the post below (and get on the list to stay in the loop).

Hi, loves! We’re curious: are you considering buying an engagement ring on Etsy, Big Cartel, Artfire, Amazon, or another retailer with an independent owner? Or, should you buy in-store because you are not sure that buying online is a good idea? Well, here’s the honest truth: buying an engagement ring online is just as good as in-store, as long as you take a few precautions. Since we’re The Handmade Wedding Blog, we’ve had the honor to work with handmade artisans on a regular basis, as well as couples on the search for handmade everything for their wedding — right down to the perfect engagement ring.

pear moissanite ring | via How To:  Buying Engagement Ring on Etsy / Online

by andrea bonelli

And along the way, we’ve learned how awesome it is to work with handmade artists. Plus, they offer so many custom options you’ll never find in-store (like band width, settings, diamond shape, size, pricing, style… just to name a few). You get to speak directly to the maker of the ring. And your ring is made, just for you (or your soon-to-be spouse). We think that’s pretty incredible.

So, if you’re looking for the perfect engagement ring online, don’t let fear get in the way. Instead, read these important tips so you can buy with confidence. Oh, and be sure to get the proposal on camera because we love when couples do that.

proposal on camera
photo: jaclyn l photography

Ready to get started? Here are the top tips, along with a few of our favorite handmade engagement rings. And we want to know… would you buy a ring from Etsy / online? Why or why not?

eco friendly handmade engagement ring via How To:  Buying Engagement Ring on Etsy / Online

by andrea bonelli

diamond ring | How To:  Buying Engagement Ring on Etsy / Online

by lily emme jewelry

Buying Engagement Ring on Etsy / Online

1. Read reviews.

When you are buying an engagement ring on Etsy or online, make sure you read PLENTY of reviews before you buy. An engagement ring is too important of a jewelry piece to leave to chance, so make sure others have dealt with the seller and have positive reviews.

2. Do your homework.

It’s great to see positive reviews, but make sure you look a little bit further. For instance, when you see five star reviews, read into it and see how many sales, how long the seller has been in business, and whether the reviews are legit. Some companies will have a 100% rating, but only three or less reviews in a short period of time (which leads us to believe the reviews could be fabricated). Look at the timestamps on the reviews, too. Many companies that are reputable won’t open a shop and have a ton of sales with 5-star reviews within days. You get the idea.

3. Check out their certifications.

A reputable jeweler will mention GIA certifications, what types of metals they use, gemstones, diamonds, etc. This is very important, since you’re most likely purchasing a diamond ring, since you don’t want to buy a faux diamond.

4. Get in touch with the seller first.

If you have any questions on particular pieces, custom designs, or need a rush order, make sure you get in touch with the seller directly. If you go to their ‘About’ page, or ‘Contact’ page, you can usually find an email address or phone number to speak with someone. Before you order anything, talk to the seller first.

5. Make sure you take accurate measurements.

Use a ring sizer to get an accurate size. (If you’re reading this and plan to propose as a surprise, use one of her rings with the ring sizer. It’s a sneaky way to get the right size without ruining the surprise.)

6. Find out about return policy / warranty.

Always read the fine print.

7. Save all of your paperwork and communication.

You may need to refer to warranty information, exchange information, or certification details in the future, so make sure you save those emails and statements.

Engagement Rings to Inspire You

Now that you know some tips to buying an engagement ring online, here are some beautiful options we’ve found!

sparkly round engagement ring

by jamie kates jewelry

custom handmade engagement ring

by andrea bonelli

white sapphire engagement

by alchemy house

petite engagement ring
by torchfire studio

rose cut diamond ring

by andrea bonelli

by andrea bonelli

rose gold princess cut
by jamie kates jewelry

by elizabeth scott botanical jewelry

diamond engagement ring rustic twig

by kristin coffin

P.S. See, when it comes to ordering custom rings, you’re not limited to traditional engagement rings alone. Since you can work one-on-one with the artist, you can custom create your perfect ring. It doesn’t even have to be a diamond, if you don’t want it to be. For instance, check out this topaz ring. It’s stunning, yes?

topaz ring

by andrea bonelli

xo
-E.