Category: advice

Which Wedding Details to Skip? – Real Bride Advice

We checked in with Real Bride Newlywed, Vicki, for some candid wedding advice for our readers. We wanted to know which wedding details to skip, based on what she did for her own wedding. (Cause, you know, hindsight is always 20/20!) Vicki offers up her advice to our readers PLUS she gives insight on which projects were easiest to tackle herself. Enjoy!

p.s. Here’s the beautiful bride and her groom on her wedding day!

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Take it away, Vicki!

Which Wedding Details to Skip?

Vicki: “This answer is totally dependent on the bride. Personally, I skipped having fresh flowers because that takes a huge chunk out of a budget. Our centerpieces and boutonnieres were all dried flowers (and guitar picks for the groomsmen) and the bridesmaids carried clutches they can reuse instead of flowers.”

Here’s a photo of the clutches and the boutonniere from Vicki’s wedding:

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bride and bridesmaids with clutches

Vicki: “If you are a bride on a budget, I would advise you to decide what details are most important to you. For example, ours were photography, and foot & alcohol. We cut flowers completely out of the budget (saving a couple thousand dollars in the process!) because I didn’t feel like I needed them. My advice: figure out what is important and what is not in the beginning; it makes it much easier in the long run!”

What were the easiest details to DIY? What were the most challenging?

Vicki: “Our entire wedding was DIY. We were paying for the wedding mostly ourselves, so DIY elements were extremely helpful in keeping with the budget. Our DIY projects also allowed us to have our personalities show! The easiest DIY was the centerpieces (blue mason jars tied with twine with dried baby’s breath and lavender).”

shown here:

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“We also had burlap runners that I cut from a roll paired with two tea lights from IKEA. The most challenging was the invites—I’m sure everyone has struggled with formatting and printing issues with irregular documents! With the help of my husband, I figured it out, but it was good I had extra paper!”

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Great advice, Vicki! Thanks for sharing with our readers! You can see Vicki’s Real Wedding here.

So, loves: what’s a wedding detail you might do without? Share below in the comments section!

xo
-E.

All photos above courtesy of BG Productions Photography & Videography

When to Say No to the Dress (+ Real Bride Tips!)

You always hear about people saying yes to the dress, but what about saying no? It’s tough to say no sometimes, but it’s so essential to one’s happiness. Why say yes to a dress you’re not totally, 100% in love with? After all, you get to pick one dress… so make it a good one. Today we’re sharing three tips on when to say no to the dress, along with an exciting Real Bride update with EB Bride Blogger, Vanessa. Hint: She said yes to her dress– and she’s got some tips to help you do the same! Enjoy!

When to Say No to the Dress (+ Real Bride Tips!)

When to Say No to the Dress

Say NO to the Dress If… it doesn’t make you feel absolutely beautiful.

If the dress doesn’t make you feel totally gorgeous, guess what? It’s NOT the one! Simple as that.

Say NO to the Dress If… it’s only because of a style you always wanted

Don’t fall into the trap of shopping only for the dress style you THINK you want. Be sure to try on styles even if you don’t think they’d look good on you. You might be surprised! Vanessa, one of our EB Real Bride Bloggers, gives this advice to brides after she tried on her dresses. “My advice is to try on as many styles as possible at your first stop. I found that styles I originally loved were not really for me after all, and by your second stop you will have a better idea of what you want!”

Say NO to the Dress If… you have doubts.

If you really like a dress, but you’re not 100% sure it’s The One, sleep on it. Walk away and think it over. If you find yourself dreaming about it days later, go back and try it on again. Then you’ll know for sure.

EB TIP: How do you know when it’s the perfect dress? Well, you won’t want to take it off. :)

Real Bride Update: Vanessa Finds Her Dress!

We’re happy to report that EB Bride Blogger, Vanessa, has found her wedding dress!

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Vanessa gives us some tips + an update:

“I found my dress! That was really exciting because I thought that process might be really time-consuming, but the fourth dress I tried on at the second store was The One. Also, don’t forget to look online ahead of time and bookmark photos of the styles you want. My mom printed photos of every dress I wanted to try on and placed them in the order of what I liked best — this saved so much time, since bridal appointments fly by!”

Great tips, Vanessa!

Well, what does it look like?!?

I know, we’re dying to know, too! However, Vanessa is keeping her dress a secret, and we don’t blame her– we wouldn’t want her groom to see it before the wedding! We even know where she bought it, but we think that might give it away so our lips are sealed!

Have you found your dress yet?

Tell us your successes (and failures!) of wedding dress shopping so far. We’d love to hear from you!

xo
-E.

How to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Wedding

We received this heartfelt Ask Emmaline question from Cassie, who is getting married this summer. Her grandfather passed away and she wants to honor him on her special day. She writes,

My grandfather passed away a few years ago and I’d love to include a mention to him in some way at my wedding. What’s an appropriate way to do so?

First of all, we are sorry to hear about your grandfather’s passing. To help you honor him at your wedding, we’ve gathered seven of our most cherished suggestions.

How to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Wedding

1. Put your loved one’s photo inside a locket.

When Abby’s father passed away, she placed his photo inside a locket. On her wedding day, she wrapped the locket around her bouquet so he could be with her as she walked down the aisle.

photo charm of bride's dad in locket wrapped around bouquet - via How to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Wedding

photo: meagan nicole photography

2. Sew a piece of fabric from their clothing into your gown.

Abby also took an old blue shirt of her father’s, cut out a heart, and had it sewn into her gown. Since it was blue, it also served as “something blue” for her ceremony.

bride's father's shirt sewn in heart on her gown via How to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Wedding

photo: meagan nicole photography

3. Play their favorite song.

Did he or she have a favorite song or band? Add it to your playlist for dinner (slow song) or reception (dance music) in honor of them.

4. Create a photo table.

Display photos in picture frames on a table at your reception. Include a decorative sign, like this:


credits: left – prairie lane boutique, right – nathan westerfield via southern weddings

If you prefer, hang photos across a wood frame using twine and miniature clothespins. Or, turn wood logs into a makeshift stand with a rustic vibe.


photo credits – left: jo photo online, right rachel peters

5. Mention loved ones who have passed in your ceremony program.

In a section of your program, include a mention underneath ‘In Loving Memory’ with name(s) listed.

6. Light a candle.

At your ceremony, light a special candle in honor of loved ones who have passed.

candle via How to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Wedding

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7. Save a seat.

Tie a ribbon on a chair, place a ‘reserved’ sign, or put a framed photograph of a loved one who passed away to save them a seat.

framed photo on chair at ceremony via How to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Wedding

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Just because someone has passed away doesn’t mean they aren’t there to celebrate with you in spirit. And remember, this is a happy occasion! Smile and remember that they wouldn’t want you to be sad; they would want you to celebrate and enjoy your special day.

xo
-E.

Need wedding advice? Just Ask Emmaline! We’re always here to help. ♥

Do you have any suggestions to add?

We’d love to read your suggestions. Let us know how you plan to honor loved ones who have passed at your wedding. You can add a comment below.