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Maid of Honor Duties: 12 Mistakes to Avoid

[M]aid of Honor: this post’s for you! You were selected as the bride’s right-hand lady and there are a handful of maid of honor duties she’ll need you to tackle on the wedding day. The last thing you want to do is forget to do these important tasks, so listen up as we present the twelve maid of honor mistakes to avoid on the wedding day. You are totally going to win at this MOH thing; here are just a few things to keep in mind…

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Maid of Honor Duties

12 Mistakes to Avoid

MOH Mistake #1. Forgetting to be her BFF.

She picked you because you’re her bestie. Her rock. Be there for her. In a sea full of craziness and stress, be the anchor. Make her laugh. Tell her how awesome she is and how much she rocks that wedding gown. And remind her to enjoy the day, because it really does go way too fast.

MOH Mistake #2. Forgetting two rules of the dress.

If her dress has a train, make sure it stays fluffed out throughout the ceremony. Also, learn how her dress bustles in the back to help her at the reception. You might also need to hold her dress when she goes to the restroom.

maid of honor duties: bustling gown for bride

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MOH Mistake #3. Not being on lipstick / food-in-teeth / underwear showing / hair flyaways / garlic breath patrol.

Lipstick on the teeth? Food in the teeth? Mint required? Be that spot checker she needs because she’ll be talking to a LOT of people. Spinach looks good in no one’s mouth. Also, if not you, who?

MOH Mistake #4. Not reminding the bride about the marriage license.

For real. You’d be surprised how many people forget to get one three days in advance.

MOH Mistake #5. Falling behind schedule.

Keep the crew on schedule, especially in the morning when getting ready. You don’t want the bride hurrying to get to the ceremony on time, with her hair half-done.

MOH Mistake #6. Not keeping a list of important numbers.

Have important numbers on hand for wedding vendors and anyone else you may need to contact. This is just in case something happens (flowers don’t show, DJ is late, etc.) It helps to be on it before the bride even notices.

MOH Mistake #7. Forgetting to drop off decor or items to the ceremony and/or reception, if needed.

This might include aisle decor setup for the ceremony, the aisle runner, signage, or reception decor like escort cards, place cards, card box, etc. This is typically required if the bride does not have a wedding planner. And, this is really only if the bride asks you to do so.

MOH Mistake #8. Not helping with the dress.

Getting the dress on is not an easy task, especially for a nervous bride. Make sure she has the essentials on hand before you begin (hosiery, accessories, undergarments).

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MOH Mistake #9. Not being her gatekeeper.

Be true to the bride’s wishes: if she doesn’t want someone to see her before the wedding (like the groom), make sure he sure as heck doesn’t.

MOH Mistake #10. Forgetting to write + rehearse your speech.

During the reception, it’s customary for the Best Man speech and Maid of Honor speech to take place. Make sure you have yours written out on paper (at least jot a few notes if you have it memorized) and don’t wing it.

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MOH Mistake #11. Not going with the flow.

There are few times in life where you really, really need to keep your you-know-what together and this is one of those times. If the cake falls apart, figure out how to get a sheet cake delivered from the grocery store stat, etc.

MOH Mistake #12. Not dropping it like it’s hot.

Not a good dancer? Turns out today’s the day to prove yourself wrong because she’ll need you out there to help her get her dance on! Hey, the fast songs are easy, just keep moving. That’s what I do.

bride dancing at reception // maid of honor duties: get out there and dance with her

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What maid of honor duties would you add to our list? Have you been a maid of honor in the past? If so, which duties were the most important in your opinion?

xo
-Emma

12 Secret Rules Every MOH Ought to Know

Hello, loves! Today’s post is for your nearest and dearest, your MOH, abbreviated for Maid (or Matron) of Honor. The MOH is a key VIP of the bridal party, hand-picked by the couple from their closest crew and selected to represent the leader of the bridesmaids. The MOH and the Best Man are responsible for keeping the party going, keeping the wedding on schedule, and fixing anything that may go amiss along the way. There are a few key responsibilities of the MOH that you may already know, like being supportive, planning the bachelorette party, and giving a toast… but there’s so much more to it than that. Today, we’re revealing 12 secret MOH duties you may not know to ensure you’re prepared for anything that should come your way. So, get ready to roll with the punches and read on to learn the full scoop!

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by brad ross via aphrodite’s wedding blog

12 Secret MOH Duties

1. Own The Dress.

You know that unflattering, possibly horrifying dress may not look good on you, but who cares? Own it.

2. ABRTKSSYKW: Always Be Ready To Kick Some Serious You-Know-What

This one is self-explanatory. Be the wedding ninja that strikes without warning, whenever and wherever needed. Mistakes happen, so always be kind and courteous if something’s amiss – but do your best to fix the problem without the bride ever having to know.

3. Throw an amazing, no-one-could-have-done-it-better Bachelorette Bash.

Don’t just throw a party, throw a complete bachelorette bash, tailored to her specific tastes. Make a note of her favorite hot spot, arrange for a surprise along the way (a favorite drink, a limo, or a spa day), grab her favorite gals, and spoil her rotten. You know she’d do the same for you!

4. Take initiative.

“Oh, you know those peonies you’ve been eyeing for the reception? Here’s a quick Pinterest board I compiled to give you some inspiration.” (MOH of the Year.) Take a little initiative and she’ll definitely appreciate it. She may feel like her to-do list is never-ending, and every little bit helps. Plus, it shows you care (even if weddings isn’t your forte).

5. Keep the bridesmaids on schedule with dresses, which also means…

This one is a two-parter. The Maid of Honor usually has the task of making sure bridesmaid dresses are ordered on time, that bridesmaids make it to fittings, and that dresses are picked up well in advance. This also means if a bridesmaid is running a little behind of schedule, work it out with her, not the bride. This will give the bride one less thing to worry about – in other words, mission complete.

moh duties

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6. Keep essentials on hand at all times.

The bride could need a number of things on her wedding day, so keep a bag of essentials close by just in case. You’ll be her total lifesaver. She could spill (Tide pen!), her ‘do could start to fall mid-day (pins), encounters close talkers (mints), forgets her vows (keep a copy), cries (extra kleenex), cries more tears of joy (eye makeup remover + travel mascara), gets a headache (aspirin)… the list goes on. You know her best, so plan ahead for anything she’s likely to require on the big day. She’ll love you for it.

7. Have contact information for all vendors.

It’s unlikely that it will happen, but vendor scheduling mistakes or other issues can arise on the big day. Be prepared for anything by having contact information for vendors on your cell phone. If the flowers mysteriously never show, the cake is wrong, or the limo is running behind of schedule, you won’t have to ask the bride and freak her out. Just sneak away for a quick minute and give ‘em a ring. Likely they’re just running a little behind, no big deal.

8. When the music is good, you dance.

And, when the music is not so good, you also dance. Either way, you get out there and shake your groove thing, shake your groove thing, yeah yeah. Show them how to do it now.

9. Make sure the couple has plenty of one-on-one time.

The wedding day goes by in an INSTANT. I’ve heard some couples don’t even get to enjoy a full piece of cake because they were too busy taking photos. Make sure the couple has plenty of time to dance, to eat, and to take a mini chat break – just the two of them.

10. Make her laugh.

If she’s stressed out, make her laugh. Break out your best impression, your favorite hilarious moment, or scramble for the hilarious You Tube video she loves on your cell phone. If it’s raining, point out that rain actually means good luck. You get the idea: be the silver lining of the day. She probably won’t need a good laugh, but be ready with one just in case.

moh duties

photo by hendrickson photography via oh lovely day

11. Be the Clean-Up Crew.

Let the couple run away at the end of the night and take care of those last-minute tasks, like cleaning up, returning rental tablecloths, and making sure the venue’s end-of-night tasks have been completed.

12. HAVE FUN.

This one can’t be stressed enough: enjoy the day! It’s a great moment you’ll always remember together and she’ll appreciate all you did to make her wedding the very best. The hard work is done: have fun!


Have any to add to the list? Comment below!

Happy Planning!


-E.