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12 Secret Rules Every Maid of Honor Should Know

Brides: this one is for your Maid of Honor! Be sure to share it on Facebook — give it a “like”!

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by brad ross

Hello, loves! Today’s post is for your nearest and dearest: your MOH, abbreviated for Maid (or Matron) of Honor. The MOH is a key VIP of the bridal party, hand-picked by the couple from their closest crew and selected to represent the leader of the bridesmaids. The MOH and the Best Man are responsible for keeping the party going, keeping the wedding on schedule, and fixing anything that may go amiss along the way. There are a few key responsibilities of the MOH that you may already know (like being supportive, planning the bachelorette party, and giving a toast), but there’s so much more than that. Today, we’re revealing 12 secret maid of honor duties you may not know to ensure you’re prepared for anything that should come your way. So, get ready to roll with the punches and read on to learn the full scoop!

Maid of Honor: 15+ Duties You Absolutely Need to Do (Please!)

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Hey, beautiful Maid of Honor! This is your BFF (The Bride) and I wanted to let you know something: you’re really awesome. So awesome, in fact, that I chose you as my leading lady on my wedding day. And with that comes a few duties, but I have total confidence you’ll be great at it. Here’s the low-down on the Maid of Honor duties I’d really, really appreciate if you could tackle for me.

The Bride and Her Bridesmaids | Photo: Erich McVey

photo: erich mcvey

Maid of Honor Duties

Dear Maid of Honor,

12 Maid of Honor Mistakes to Avoid

Maid of Honor: this post’s for you! You were selected as the bride’s right-hand lady and there are a handful of maid of honor duties she’ll need you to tackle on the wedding day. The last thing you want to do is forget to do these important tasks, so listen up as we present the twelve maid of honor mistakes to avoid on the wedding day. You are totally going to win at this MOH thing; here are just a few things to keep in mind…

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Maid of Honor Mistakes to Avoid — Top 12 List

MOH Mistake #1. Forgetting to be her BFF.

She picked you because you’re her bestie. Her rock. Be there for her. In a sea full of craziness and stress, be the anchor. Make her laugh. Tell her how awesome she is and how much she rocks that wedding gown. And remind her to enjoy the day, because it really does go way too fast.

MOH Mistake #2. Forgetting two rules of the dress.

If her dress has a train, make sure it stays fluffed out throughout the ceremony. Also, learn how her dress bustles in the back to help her at the reception. You might also need to hold her dress when she goes to the restroom.

12 Maid of Honor Mistakes to Avoid | http://emmalinebride.com/planning/maid-of-honor-duties/
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MOH Mistake #3. Not being on lipstick / food-in-teeth / underwear showing / hair flyaways / garlic breath patrol.

Lipstick on the teeth? Food in the teeth? Mint required? Be that spot checker she needs because she’ll be talking to a LOT of people. Spinach looks good in no one’s mouth. Also, if not you, who?

MOH Mistake #4. Not reminding the bride about the marriage license.

For real. You’d be surprised how many people forget to get one three days in advance.

MOH Mistake #5. Falling behind schedule.

Keep the crew on schedule, especially in the morning when getting ready. You don’t want the bride hurrying to get to the ceremony on time, with her hair half-done.

MOH Mistake #6. Not keeping a list of important numbers.

Have important numbers on hand for wedding vendors and anyone else you may need to contact. This is just in case something happens (flowers don’t show, DJ is late, etc.) It helps to be on it before the bride even notices.

MOH Mistake #7. Forgetting to drop off decor or items to the ceremony and/or reception, if needed.

This might include aisle decor setup for the ceremony, the aisle runner, signage, or reception decor like escort cards, place cards, card box, etc. This is typically required if the bride does not have a wedding planner. And, this is really only if the bride asks you to do so.

MOH Mistake #8. Not helping with the dress.

Getting the dress on is not an easy task, especially for a nervous bride. Make sure she has the essentials on hand before you begin (hosiery, accessories, undergarments).

12 Maid of Honor Mistakes to Avoid | http://emmalinebride.com/planning/maid-of-honor-duties/
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MOH Mistake #9. Not being her gatekeeper.

Be true to the bride’s wishes: if she doesn’t want someone to see her before the wedding (like the groom), make sure he sure as heck doesn’t.

MOH Mistake #10. Forgetting to write + rehearse your speech.

During the reception, it’s customary for the Best Man speech and Maid of Honor speech to take place. Make sure you have yours written out on paper (at least jot a few notes if you have it memorized) and don’t wing it.

12 Maid of Honor Mistakes to Avoid | http://emmalinebride.com/planning/maid-of-honor-duties/
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MOH Mistake #11. Not going with the flow.

There are few times in life where you really, really need to keep your you-know-what together and this is one of those times. If the cake falls apart, figure out how to get a sheet cake delivered from the grocery store stat, etc.

MOH Mistake #12. Not dropping it like it’s hot.

Not a good dancer? Turns out today’s the day to prove yourself wrong because she’ll need you out there to help her get her dance on! Hey, the fast songs are easy, just keep moving. That’s what I do.

12 Maid of Honor Mistakes to Avoid | http://emmalinebride.com/planning/maid-of-honor-duties/
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What maid of honor duties would you add to our list? Have you been a maid of honor in the past? If so, which duties were the most important in your opinion?

xo
-Emma