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7 Wedding Song Tips for a Perfect First Dance

by Emma Arendoski

Have you given any thought to what you will pick as your wedding song yet?  Your wedding song is traditionally the song played during your first dance.  Although picking a wedding song sounds easy enough, it can be a daunting task.  You only get to pick one, so you ought to make it a good one! And we’re here to help. In this post, we’re sharing seven wedding song tips so your first dance goes off without a hitch. Read on to get started…

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Wedding Song Tips

1. Choose a song that is meaningful.

The song you choose will forever be your song.  Don’t pick one that’s popular at the moment, just for popularity’s sake. Dig a little! Look for one that represents you as a couple or one that draws upon your unique story… maybe even the first song you danced to together or heard on a first date. (I mean, I wouldn’t pick Escape by Enrique, that’s just me. Ha.)

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2. Choose a song that isn’t too long.

When Andrew and I got married, our original song choice was six minutes long. Six whole minutes! We were sort of kidding when we brought it up to our DJ, but thankfully he coaxed us in a different direction.

Two to four minutes is a pretty good rule of thumb.  Any longer and guests are going to get bored. You will also start to feel like you have been dancing FOREVER. Our song was 2:30.  It was perfect: just long enough for a nice slow dance and a few twirls, for good measure. ;)

3.  Make sure you can dance to it.

A slow song is good, but it should have a little tempo to it. You want to be moving on the floor instead of an awkward sway, like you did during your sixth-grade dance in the gym.

4. Practice.

Listen to it at home and dance in your living room. See if it works for you.  Practice will make you feel less awkward on the dance floor, too.

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5. Listen to the lyrics… very, very closely.

I can’t tell you how many couples chose a song that is seemingly perfect, only to hear the lyrics closer and realize it is really not appropriate for a wedding song.  Consider what the song says and what it really means before selecting it. You MUST read this hilarious article about 17 songs that aren’t as romantic as you think. It is SPOT ON.

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6. Make sure it is a song that you both love.

This should be a song you select together and one that you both enjoy.  Make a list of top three and then choose the best one as a couple.

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7. Have the DJ announce the first dance so guests don’t miss it.


With so much thought put into your first dance, you wouldn’t want guests to miss seeing it! Make sure it is on your DJ’s order of events.  The first dance usually kicks off the  dancing portion of the reception, so it typically happens right after dinner before everyone gets on the dance floor.

Do you have any tips to add to our list?  Share them below!  Also… what is your wedding song?


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