Does the best man give a gift to the groom? That’s the question we’re answering today! EB reader, Mark, wrote us about his brother who is getting married in the fall.
We’ll answer Mark’s question and tell you everything you need to know about the best man gift to groom including how much it costs, how much you should spend on the gift, and when to give the gift to the groom.
And we’ll share some top gift picks for best man gift to groom for the wedding day.
“Hi Emmaline, I’m the Best Man for my brother’s wedding in October. I have been a groomsman before but never the best man. Aside from the things I’m supposed to do, does the best man give a gift to the groom? If so, do you have any gift suggestions? Thanks for your help.”
Hi, Mark! Thanks for writing. Whether the best man needs to give a gift to the groom is a debated topic for some.
We’ve heard the point of view from both sides — the best man may already be going above and beyond on his duties, so why should he also give a gift?
On the other hand, this is his brother or best friend’s wedding, and if he wants to give a gift, what’s wrong with it?
Here’s a pretty good rule of thumb to follow: do you want to give him a gift? If the answer is yes, then give him a gift.
If you don’t want to give him a gift, or cannot (i.e. you’re already spent on the other associated costs like the bachelor party and the tux rental), don’t sweat it — the groom will understand. I highly doubt the groom is expecting a gift.
If you CAN give a gift, we say go for it! A thoughtful, personalized gift is always welcome (and the groom is sure to appreciate it).
Now, keep in mind the gift does not have to be extravagant or expensive. We’ll help you through the gift-giving with two simple pointers.
Best Man Gift to Groom
Two pointers to keep in mind when giving a best man gift to groom.
1. Keep it simple.
The gift for the groom from the best man should be simple: something you know he will like, but nothing overly flashy or ridiculously expensive that goes over the top. The gift is a small token of your congratulations on his wedding day, so something around the $75-$150 mark is a solid gift range. Under this amount is okay, of course — but anything more tends may be too extravagant for this gift. Don’t overthink it. Just go with something personal, something tasteful, and a gift that is totally his style.
2. Give the gift the morning of the wedding.
The Best Man is pretty much with the groom before the wedding and throughout most of the day. The best time to give the gift is when you have a minute together either just the two of you (before getting ready) or with the other groomsmen. (In case you’re wondering whether the groomsmen have to give a gift to the groom: no, they do not. A wedding gift for the couple, though — yes.)
If you are wondering about some groom gift ideas from the best man, here are a few suggestions he’ll love.
We found an extensive collection of beautifully handcrafted leather wallets for the groom from Mr. Lentz. Leather gets better with age and is built to last; in addition, who couldn’t use a new wallet or a passport wallet for the honeymoon?
Flask and Glass
This leather wrapped flask is a great gift idea.
You can pair it with a Brandy glass, like this one from HomeWetBar:
Or pair it with a whiskey glass: we found this one called Cosmos, an old-fashioned style.
Personalized Zippo Lighter
A watch is always a classic gift for the groom. These timepieces are perfect for the wedding day and beyond.
Or this style, which comes with a black and brown leather band to complement any occasion and wardrobe. Available here. We received a watch to review and this is stunning in person; a true traditional gift for the best man to give to the groom!
Leather Valet Tray
Stainless Steel Flask
Leather Dopp Kit
Cigar Holder, Personalized
We’ve featured more of these cufflinks before. They’re so cool.
Whiskey Barrel Guitar Wall Mount
Football Shaped Beer Bottle Cap Holder
This is great for the football fan’s man cave!
Baseball Bat Mug
Cool baseball mugs… made from ACTUAL baseball bats!
Pretty awesome ideas, right? I would have trouble picking just one!
Where to Buy Best Man Gift for Groom
If you like what you saw here, check out the entire collection of leather goods at the shops listed above. Click on an image or the link directly beneath it to find out more / buy yours.
Need more gift ideas? Read: 100 100 Most Unique Groomsmen Gifts. These are also great suggestions for the groom there!
Looking for gifts for the groom from the bride? Read this helpful post!
Hope it helps!
P.S. If you have a wedding advice question, send it to us at Ask Emmaline and it may appear in an upcoming post!