This post is written as the bride. Brides, pass it on to your Maid of Honor so she knows which maid of honor duties you’d (really!) love her to do for your big day.

Hey, Maid of Honor: this is This is your BFF (The Bride) and I wanted to let you know something: you’re really awesome. So awesome, in fact, that I chose you as my leading lady on my wedding day. And with that comes a few maid of honor duties, but I have total confidence you’ll pull it off…

Anyway, here’s the low-down on the Maid of Honor duties I’d really, really appreciate if you could tackle for me.

Maid of Honor Duties

Dear Maid of Honor,

Please help with…

THE DRESS

I WANT TO ROCK IT on my wedding day. Help me pick out the perfect dress so I look awesome.

THE BRIDESMAID DRESSES

Please help me with picking out the bridesmaid dresses. I want you and the bridesmaids to love what I pick, and I really don’t want to screw this up; so please offer tips on colors and styles they might like.

And I promise the dresses will be gorgeous.

THE BRIDAL SHOWER + BACHELORETTE PARTY

Please help plan a super-fun bridal shower (with my mom / mother in law / bridesmaids / etc.) and bachelorette party. I’ll be forever grateful! And please wear some fun tanks + tees.

THE SHOES

If you can help me avoid making these shoe mistakes so my feet aren’t killing me, that would be amazing. Also, if you could help me pick out shoes that look great with my dress (and are also wildly comfortable), I’ll be oh-so-grateful.

THE BRIDEZILLA PACT

If I start to be a Bridezilla, even a little bit, STOP ME. Remind me what the wedding day is all about.

THE NON-OBSESSIVE CLAUSE

When I start obsessing over wedding things, please remind me not to stress out so much. Remind me that everything will be wonderful and to stop freaking out.

THE BOUQUET

This one’s easy: please hold my bouquet during the ceremony.

THE RING

Please hold on to the groom’s ring during the ceremony until it’s time to exchange our vows.

THE TRAIN

If I have a train on my gown, please make sure it’s laying properly / fluffed out during the ceremony. This will keep my gown looking its best, especially in my ceremony photos.

PLANNING

Please ask if there’s something you can help with for the wedding. It might be favors or wedding invitations or helping to decide on colors, or helping me pick out what wedding favors to give.

CALM MY NERVES

As the bride, I’m freaking out here a little and it’s not even the wedding day yet. Please keep me calm during the ceremony. And I’m also super emotional, and you know I’m going to be lathering on that ultra-waterproof mascara, so please hang on to a tissue to a hankie in case I need it at the ceremony.

THE QUICK FIX

If something goes wrong on my wedding day (i.e. the cake falls over, we run out of favors, the programs get ruined, etc.) please do whatever you can for a quick fix. I’m even happier if you don’t even tell me about it (and we only joke about it years later). :)

HAIR & MAKEUP

You know how I want to look my best for the big day, so… can you please give me suggestions on how I should wear my hair? And please (pleasssssssse) tell me if my run-through for hair and makeup is a total disaster? I’d prefer to know and fix it than go with a look I’m not 100% sure about.

THE INVITATIONS

Perhaps you could help me address and assemble my invitation? I know, there’s a ton of them, but I promise to offer tons of wine and food. And Netflix marathons.brida

THE MORNING OF THE WEDDING

Please get ready with me and the bridesmaids on the wedding day. And by “get ready” I mean be silly and make incredibly fun memories.

THE MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE

Here’s one of the most important of the maid of honor duties: please witness and sign the marriage certificate.

THE SPEECH

I know, you hate public speaking… but pleaaaaaaaase give an epic wedding speech at the reception. I trust you’ll bring down the house.

PRO TIP: Here’s some tips to help!

THE FIRST LOOK

Please don’t let my fiance see me before the wedding (unless we’re doing a first look).

THE DRESSES

Please see to it that the bridesmaids order their dresses on time (and go to fittings).

THE EMERGENCY KIT

Please have an emergency kit for the wedding day, just in case something crazy happens with my gown, or I need a breath mint, a lipstick application, or my hair pins are coming undone. Also, I trust that you’ll tell me if I have spinach (or anything else) in my teeth. ;)

THE RIBBON BOUQUET

There’s a tradition where, at the bridal shower, the maid of honor gathers the ribbons and bows that were on the wrapped presents and puts them aside after the bride opens her gifts. Then, she assembles the ribbons together through a paper plate (as the base) to form a ribbon bouquet. This bouquet is carried down the aisle at the rehearsal. Please do it! This contraption makes it really easy to do (but you can also poke holes through a paper plate, tbh).

THE REHEARSAL / REHEARSAL DINNER

Two very important maid of honor duties: please attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.

THE GETAWAY CAR

Please decorate our car with the Best Man during the reception for a more fun grand exit!

A banner, like this, is a fun option!

THE DANCE FLOOR

Please dance with me on the dance floor! And encourage other guests to dance, too!

I know, it might sound like a lot of maid of honor duties… but I swear it means the world to me. Thanks for standing by my side!

XO
The Bride

P.S. And brides, make sure you say thank you for doing ALL of these amazing things with a great gift!

What Maid of Honor Duties would you add to the list?

Tell us with a comment below! We’d love to hear from you!