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12 Secret Rules Every MOH Ought to Know

Posted July 3, 2012 | 9 Comments

Hello, loves! Today’s post is for your nearest and dearest, your MOH, abbreviated for Maid (or Matron) of Honor. The MOH is a key VIP of the bridal party, hand-picked by the couple from their closest crew and selected to represent the leader of the bridesmaids. The MOH and the Best Man are responsible for keeping the party going, keeping the wedding on schedule, and fixing anything that may go amiss along the way. There are a few key responsibilities of the MOH that you may already know, like being supportive, planning the bachelorette party, and giving a toast… but there’s so much more to it than that. Today, we’re revealing 12 secret MOH duties you may not know to ensure you’re prepared for anything that should come your way. So, get ready to roll with the punches and read on to learn the full scoop!

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by brad ross via aphrodite’s wedding blog

12 Secret MOH Duties

1. Own The Dress.

You know that unflattering, possibly horrifying dress may not look good on you, but who cares? Own it.

2. ABRTKSSYKW: Always Be Ready To Kick Some Serious You-Know-What

This one is self-explanatory. Be the wedding ninja that strikes without warning, whenever and wherever needed. Mistakes happen, so always be kind and courteous if something’s amiss – but do your best to fix the problem without the bride ever having to know.

3. Throw an amazing, no-one-could-have-done-it-better Bachelorette Bash.

Don’t just throw a party, throw a complete bachelorette bash, tailored to her specific tastes. Make a note of her favorite hot spot, arrange for a surprise along the way (a favorite drink, a limo, or a spa day), grab her favorite gals, and spoil her rotten. You know she’d do the same for you!

4. Take initiative.

“Oh, you know those peonies you’ve been eyeing for the reception? Here’s a quick Pinterest board I compiled to give you some inspiration.” (MOH of the Year.) Take a little initiative and she’ll definitely appreciate it. She may feel like her to-do list is never-ending, and every little bit helps. Plus, it shows you care (even if weddings isn’t your forte).

5. Keep the bridesmaids on schedule with dresses, which also means…

This one is a two-parter. The Maid of Honor usually has the task of making sure bridesmaid dresses are ordered on time, that bridesmaids make it to fittings, and that dresses are picked up well in advance. This also means if a bridesmaid is running a little behind of schedule, work it out with her, not the bride. This will give the bride one less thing to worry about – in other words, mission complete.

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photo by half orange photography via style me pretty

6. Keep essentials on hand at all times.

The bride could need a number of things on her wedding day, so keep a bag of essentials close by just in case. You’ll be her total lifesaver. She could spill (Tide pen!), her ‘do could start to fall mid-day (pins), encounters close talkers (mints), forgets her vows (keep a copy), cries (extra kleenex), cries more tears of joy (eye makeup remover + travel mascara), gets a headache (aspirin)… the list goes on. You know her best, so plan ahead for anything she’s likely to require on the big day. She’ll love you for it.

7. Have contact information for all vendors.

It’s unlikely that it will happen, but vendor scheduling mistakes or other issues can arise on the big day. Be prepared for anything by having contact information for vendors on your cell phone. If the flowers mysteriously never show, the cake is wrong, or the limo is running behind of schedule, you won’t have to ask the bride and freak her out. Just sneak away for a quick minute and give ‘em a ring. Likely they’re just running a little behind, no big deal.

8. When the music is good, you dance.

And, when the music is not so good, you also dance. Either way, you get out there and shake your groove thing, shake your groove thing, yeah yeah. Show them how to do it now.

9. Make sure the couple has plenty of one-on-one time.

The wedding day goes by in an INSTANT. I’ve heard some couples don’t even get to enjoy a full piece of cake because they were too busy taking photos. Make sure the couple has plenty of time to dance, to eat, and to take a mini chat break – just the two of them.

10. Make her laugh.

If she’s stressed out, make her laugh. Break out your best impression, your favorite hilarious moment, or scramble for the hilarious You Tube video she loves on your cell phone. If it’s raining, point out that rain actually means good luck. You get the idea: be the silver lining of the day. She probably won’t need a good laugh, but be ready with one just in case.

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photo by hendrickson photography via oh lovely day

11. Be the Clean-Up Crew.

Let the couple run away at the end of the night and take care of those last-minute tasks, like cleaning up, returning rental tablecloths, and making sure the venue’s end-of-night tasks have been completed.

12. HAVE FUN.

This one can’t be stressed enough: enjoy the day! It’s a great moment you’ll always remember together and she’ll appreciate all you did to make her wedding the very best. The hard work is done: have fun!


Have any to add to the list? Comment below!

Happy Planning!


-E.






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9 Responses to “12 Secret Rules Every MOH Ought to Know”

  1. Karen @ Wedding Flowers Co
    July 7th, 2012 @ 12:34 pm

    nice post…thanks for sharing!

  2. Janna
    September 18th, 2012 @ 3:36 pm

    I needed my MOH to find someone to go buy a second pair of shoes for my flower girl because she had forgotten hers and worn her tennis shoes instead. What a nightmare!! Not the thing you want to worry about the morning of your wedding.

  3. Amanda
    December 5th, 2012 @ 12:28 pm

    Thankyouthankyouthankyou for this! My sister has asked me to be her MOH, and I was kind of freaking out on the inside because I’ve never done anything like this before (the last wedding I was in was 15 years ago, when I was a flower girl). This is super helpful; pinning these tips!

  4. Emma@EmmalineBride
    December 5th, 2012 @ 3:15 pm

    Amanda,

    Glad you liked it! Good luck helping with the wedding – we’ll be sharing tons of MOH inspiration, so be sure to check back! :)

    -E.

  5. Melody
    January 13th, 2013 @ 11:51 pm

    Thanks for this! I’m sixteen and my sister asked me to be her MOH. I freaked out at first, but now i’m super stoked after reading this! We can make this work together!:D

  6. Jeannie
    March 5th, 2013 @ 11:25 pm

    My Matron of Honor told me -during the downpour before my outdoor reception- that the angels were crying tears of joy.

  7. Jennifer
    May 7th, 2013 @ 8:46 pm

    while doing my sisters wedding i put my address on the wedding shower invites (got the ppl from the guest list) put your address down so the out of town quests can mail you the gift and so they know the b&g got it on the day of the shower.

  8. Barry
    October 31st, 2013 @ 1:35 pm

    great list…you got it summed up nicely..

  9. Emma | Emmaline Bride
    December 3rd, 2013 @ 1:33 pm

    Hello! Okay, I’ve thought this over… here’s what I think: I agree that you should (together) cover the costs of the festivities once in Vegas. For the plane ticket, though, that’s another story. If the Bride said she wanted a weekend in Vegas, she probably already had in mind that she would be paying for a plane ticket. If you wanted to help, though, you and the other MOH could cut the cost of the ticket in three, with the Bride paying for a third, you paying for a third, and the other MOH paying for a third. I hope it helps! :)

    E,








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