What do you give groomsmen when asking them to be in the wedding? Do you have to give groomsman proposal gifts?
Can you just ask them?
Bride-to-be, Stephanie, writes us on this topic, one that I’m sure you may be wondering yourself. She writes,
“Hi Emmaline Bride! I always see bridesmaid proposal ideas, but what should you give groomsmen as gifts when you ask them to be in your wedding? Do you just ask? Or do you have any good be my groomsman gift ideas? My fiancé is wondering how to do it. Thanks!”
Great questions, Stephanie! I can definitely help steer you in the right direction.
While it isn’t mandatory to give groomsmen gifts when asking them to be in your wedding, it sure is a fun way to kick off the excitement!
Some feel that asking on the phone or by text is too impersonal for such a big question. There are such few moments in your life when you get to ask such a big question to a good friend, so giving a present along with it will make it memorable.
That’s up to you, and you should do whatever makes you happy. In my opinion, I think giving a small and simple gift is a nice way to make asking your groomsmen more memorable.
Giving gifts in person can break the ice and make it less awkward, while sending them in the mail makes for a fun surprise.
There are even some funny ways to ask groomsmen to be in your wedding, which we’ll share in a minute.
The bottom line is, the gift you give shouldn’t be too extravagant: it shouldn’t set you over your budget. And you don’t want it to compete with the actual groomsmen gifts you give on the wedding day, either.
So, keep it fun. Keep it simple. And keep it lighthearted!
Here are the most unique ways to ask groomsmen to be in your wedding.
How to Ask Your Groomsmen to Be In Your Wedding: Gift Ideas + Suggestions
1. Ask with a bottle of their favorite.
Giving groomsmen a favorite beverage with a tag like this by Neese’s Creations is one of the best ways to ask, IMO. You’re adding a personalized tag to make it special, while giving them a gift you know they’ll enjoy.
PLUS, the calendar date circled will ensure they have the date and will memorize it. :)
2. Ask groomsmen with glassware.
Easy, am I right? You can ask groomsmen to be in your wedding when they’re hanging out with you watching the football game, hunting at the cabin, or out on the water fishing. Serve them up a pint of their fave in this groomsman stein by Brad Goodell Weddings & Gifts. They’ll keep it and enjoy on the wedding day and beyond.
Or put them to the test with a chug to accept can cooler by BlissfulAbodeGifts.
It can be a non-alcohol gift, too! Coffee mugs are always a great gift.
Love this one by PuffPaperCo:
3. Make him figure it out.
Make him work a bit with one of these scratch-off cards, which reveals in the legend what role he will play. By XOXOKristen.
4. Mustache ’em.
If you mustache them a question (must ask them) you may as well make them wear the mustache to accept! These funny cards by NessysTreasuresShop are a fun way to pop the question to your groomsmen.
5. Play ball.
If you have groomsmen who like to play sports, ask them with one of these sports ball groomsman proposal gifts.
Here’s one that is sure to be a home run: an engraved baseball! By JCSDesigns2017.
Don’t fumble over the words when you ask with this football (also by JCDesigns2017):
Or hit the greens and give him this golfing groomsmen proposal gift of a personalized ball and tee by GenderRevealParties:
6. Call them to duty.
7. Send a card.
This card set is perfect for asking your groomsmen to be in your wedding. By HmacdoPaperCo.
This funny, “She Made Me” card is such a brilliant way to ask your guys! You can get it at LuckyNotes.
Or go comical with it, like this “only decision I get to make” card. :) By Rustic and Ruffly.
I hope these ideas help! Which of these ideas is your favorite for asking groomsmen to be in your wedding?