Bride-to-be Allie wrote us this week with a common wedding etiquette question we know you’re probably wondering, too! She asks,
Hi Emmaline! My niece is the flower girl in my wedding and I just started looking at flower girl dresses. I showed some to my sister (my niece’s mom) to see her thoughts on the dresses I found. I was wondering, who pays for the flower girl dress? Who picks it out? Thanks in advance!
Great question, Allie! Here’s the wedding etiquette on who pays for the flower girl dress at your wedding…
Who pays for flower girl dress?
As an answer to your question, a flower girl’s role is accepted on her behalf by her parents and attire is treated as any attendant in your wedding party. Essentially, the parents of the flower girl buy the dress and required attire accessories. Or, the bride and groom may purchase the flower girl’s dress (and accessories) as the gift for the flower girl. (See also: Who gets a gift from the bride and groom?)
3 Tips for Choosing the Flower Girl Dress
1. Choose affordable flower girl dresses.
The bride typically chooses the flower girl dress (or a few dresses). If the bride is not paying for the flower girl dress, make sure the dress you choose is affordable. There are many adorable dresses under the $100 mark that are absolutely perfect (many even lower — between $30-$40).
These are all under $100!
Don’t forget cute shoes! These are all by Bitsy Blossom.
2. Provide a few options.
It is helpful to choose three flower girl dresses you like best (along with price and store location or online website) and present them to the flower girl’s mother. It is also helpful to choose dresses in different price points. This way, you’ve picked out dresses you like BUT the flower girl’s mother can ultimately choose which one her daughter will wear. They say mother knows best, and when it comes to what your flower girl will be most comfortable wearing all day, it’s best to let mom decide. (She’ll know if her little one hates sleeves, prefers sleeves, gets too itchy with tulle, needs a more breathable fabric, etc.) Plus, since she’s buying it, she should have some say in which one she’s comfortable paying for.
3. Mention any accessories needed right away.
If there are particular shoes, tights, or accessories you need/want the flower girl to wear, we recommend letting the flower girl’s mother know right away. This will eliminate any need for last-minute shopping and everything can be pulled together at once. This might include shoes, tights/socks, or a cardigan sweater/pashmina. If you want something “extra” — i.e. a hair wreath, hair accessory, flower girl banner or basket — those would fall along the lines of a flower girl gift and should be purchased by the bride and groom.
Hope it helps!