Being the Maid of Honor is a huge honor and comes with big responsibilities. This guide breaks down everything you need to know to support the bride, organize the bachelorette party, and shine on the big day.
But first, you’re going to need this: the Maid of Honor timeline.
📆 Maid of Honor Timeline
Here’s a quick overview of what you’ll need to do and when:
- Right after engagement: Support the bride emotionally, help with vendors if asked.
- 6–9 months out: Assist with bridesmaid dress choices, offer planning help.
- 3 months out: Plan the bachelorette party and help with the bridal shower.
- 1 month out: Prepare your speech, confirm your outfit, finalize travel.
- Wedding week: Help with packing, timeline, and bride’s emergency kit.
- Wedding day: Be there for the bride, hold her bouquet, and keep things on track.
📝 Maid of Honor Duties & Responsibilities
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🎁 Maid of Honor Gifts & Thank You Ideas
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🎁 What Should the Maid of Honor Give the Bride?
Many Maids of Honor like to give a sentimental or practical gift to the bride. This can include a handwritten letter, framed photo, vow book, or a fun bachelorette surprise. Here are a few ideas:
“Being a Maid of Honor means more than standing next to the bride — it means showing up for her in every way.”
“The best Maid of Honor isn’t the one who plans the perfect party — it’s the one who makes the bride feel her most loved.”
📋 Maid of Honor FAQ
What are the main duties of a Maid of Honor?
The Maid of Honor supports the bride emotionally and logistically, plans the bachelorette party, helps with bride’s planning responsibilities, and stands by the bride during the ceremony and reception.
How do you write a Maid of Honor speech?
Start with a heartfelt story, add some humor, keep it brief, and end with a toast to the happy couple. Practice beforehand and speak from the heart.
When should the Maid of Honor organize the bachelorette party?
Typically, the bachelorette party is planned 1 to 2 months before the wedding to allow guests to attend without conflicts.
What is a good Maid of Honor gift?
Thoughtful gifts like personalized robes, jewelry, or keepsake boxes are popular. The gift should show appreciation for the Maid of Honor’s support and friendship.
Can a married woman be a Maid of Honor?
Yes! A married woman can absolutely serve as the Maid of Honor. Technically, the term becomes “Matron of Honor” once she’s married, but many brides still use “Maid of Honor” regardless of marital status. It’s all about your relationship and her role, not her title.
What’s the difference between Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor?
The only difference is marital status: a Maid of Honor is unmarried, while a Matron of Honor is married. Both roles carry the same responsibilities: helping the bride plan, keeping the bridal party organized, and standing beside her on the big day.
What if I’ve never been a Maid of Honor before?
No worries! Most Maids of Honor are doing it for the first time. Start with a checklist, talk openly with the bride about what she needs, and lean on resources like this guide. Your support and presence mean more than perfection.
Do you have to give a speech if you’re the Maid of Honor?
Giving a speech is traditional but not required. If public speaking makes you nervous, you can write a toast to be read by someone else or share your message privately with the couple. That said, most MOHs do speak — and we’ve got tips to help you feel confident.
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