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7 Wedding Toss Mistakes to Avoid

Planning a wedding ceremony toss? You’ve come to the right place! A ceremony toss is where guests toss something at the newlyweds in celebration as they exit the space (immediately after the ceremony). It is sometimes referred to as a ceremony exit. If you like posts like these, be sure to keep ‘em coming right to your inbox!

Are you planning a wedding toss after your ceremony? Don’t miss this post! Emma here and I’m so excited that you’ve stopped in today: we’ve rounded up seven wedding toss mistakes to avoid so your hooray’s go off without a hitch. We’ve also included some suggestions for what to toss, what to avoid, I’ll pass on some wisdom I learned from my 7th grade teacher, and we’ll even tie an unlikely connection between the B-52’s and your ceremony exit.

Oh, it’s bound to be a good time. Enjoy!

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Wedding Ceremony Toss Tips

Mistake #1: Not asking permission first.

Always ask your venue before planning a wedding ceremony toss. Don’t assume it’s accepted, because many venues won’t let you toss anything anymore, especially indoors, simply because it’s a pain to clean up. So, ask first — and don’t assume anything. (P.S. My seventh grade teacher told us to never assume anything because it makes an ASS out of U and ME. Pretty good rule of thumb for life, yes?)

Mistake #2: Rice. Or glitter. Or anything that’s impossible to clean.

In case you haven’t heard yet, rice is terrible for tossing. Why? There was a big hubbub caused by Ann Landers that basically told brides that rice will cause birds to, you know, explode if they ingested rice. (In case you were wondering, this is a myth, thank goodness.) Rice is still frowned upon, though; it can be more of a tripping hazard than anything. Plus, it’s a waste of perfectly good food.

Now, as far as glitter is concerned, that’s a tough one: we would pretty much advise against it, especially if the ceremony is not on your own property. I mean, the B-52’s wouldn’t have elaborated so much about glitter on the highway, on the front porch, or on the hallway just because it’s festive. They were trying to tell us how glitter is THE WORST to clean up. And does it even really go away? Also, glitter would be a nightmare to get on your beautiful dress, not to mention in your hair or eyes.

But I get it, I really do: it’s insanely sparkly + festive. But we’re not here to boss you around — just gently advise. ;)

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Now, colorful sprinkle tosses look amazing in photos. However, I’ve heard conflicting things that the dyed sugar can stain your dress, and we think you’d need a decent size tub of sprinkles and still, that’s a lot of perfectly delicious sprinkles to go to waste. But, hey, to each her own.

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photo: jessica fike photography

What to toss instead?

There are several things you can use instead of rice for a confetti toss. Here are some ideas for inspiration:

Ribbon Wands

You technically don’t toss a ribbon wand, but you twirl it which looks really pretty and leaves zero cleanup.

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Toss an eco-friendly option like dried flower petals or herbs. You can get a bunch of beautiful, fragrant flower confetti from places like Flowerfetti, who offers a ton of lovely eco-friendly tossing ideas, like these.



I love lavender: it’s calming, smells amazing, is eco-friendly, and fits in small favor bags for tossing.

lavenderfetti tossing bags for wedding ceremony toss by lavenderfetti via



Another favorite for outdoor confetti tosses? Birdseed. Those birds will love you for it.

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mother and daughter creations


Poms are so much easier to clean up! No small particles, just fluffy, fuzzy poms that guests can toss in a big basket afterward. Plus, it’s super cheap and colorful, too.

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Blowing bubbles is fun for all ages — especially the kiddos! Plus, you can get easy bubble favors, like these.

Mistake #3: No confetti containers.

To make sure your confetti toss is perfect, a little preparation is key: place confetti in paper cones or small glassine bags and pre-pack them for guests to grab after the ceremony.

flower confetti cone for wedding ceremony toss


Make sure the toss bags are easily accessible, too. One suggestion is to have a ribbon strung through a petal cone to attach to ceremony chair backs. This way, guests are prepared long before you recite your vows.

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Mistake #4: Leaving a mess.

Clean up after yourself. This one’s obvious, but worth noting. It’s also a great idea to have a waste basket somewhere on the premises (obviously not in view, but accessible for after the ceremony) and a small broom and dustpan for easy cleanup.

Mistake #5: Not establishing a tossing space.

If you want to have a wedding toss after the ceremony, make sure you have a specific space in mind. Usually it happens outside of your ceremony venue, but the location is really up to you. Pick your space and coordinate with your photographer to ensure that’s where it happens. Besides, this way you can work together to ensure there’s enough light and room to really capture the perfect moment.

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photo: jj chen photography

Mistake #6: Forgetting to ask guests what to do.

Guests won’t necessarily know what to do unless you request it. Include a line in your program that says something like, “Please take a bag of confetti as you exit the ceremony & toss as the newlyweds exit.” Also, make sure the bags are in plain view, and easy to grab as guests exit. You can even give to guests with their programs as they enter the ceremony space, which works well, too.

Mistake #7: Not assigning someone in charge.

If you don’t have a wedding coordinator, ask a friend to do a huge favor and help you with the toss. This friend can be responsible for getting the toss bags passed out to guests, or having them placed in a basket after the ceremony, or having your guests form two lines so you have an aisle way to walk through. This friend can also make sure stuff gets cleaned up, so you’re not in trouble with your venue. This friend should also be given a nice gift and a big thank you and you should totally owe them one giant favor for helping you out in this way.

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So, are you planning a wedding ceremony toss? If so, what are you going to offer to guests for tossing?


Paper Flower Chair Decoration

Are you looking for wedding chair decorations? We’ve shared some amazing finds in the past (like these, those, and who could forget these?) and we’re sharing a new one today! Have you seen this huge paper flower chair decoration over at Dragonfly Expression? We love the look!

Paper Flower Chair Decoration

So, how can you use this?

How to Use This Decoration

For your ceremony…

– adorn reserved chairs
– use as aisle decor on chairs
– embellish your aisle runner

For your reception…

– as decoration on your cake table or guest book table
– as chair decor for your sweetheart table or head table

You can see more + buy yours here.

bottom image via netmartin wedding couture


How to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Wedding

We received this heartfelt Ask Emmaline question from Cassie, who is getting married this summer. Her grandfather passed away and she wants to honor him on her special day. She writes,

My grandfather passed away a few years ago and I’d love to include a mention to him in some way at my wedding. What’s an appropriate way to do so?

First of all, we are sorry to hear about your grandfather’s passing. To help you honor him at your wedding, we’ve gathered seven of our most cherished suggestions.

How to Honor Loved Ones Who Have Passed at Wedding

1. Put your loved one’s photo inside a locket.

When Abby’s father passed away, she placed his photo inside a locket. On her wedding day, she wrapped the locket around her bouquet so he could be with her as she walked down the aisle.

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2. Sew a piece of fabric from their clothing into your gown.

Abby also took an old blue shirt of her father’s, cut out a heart, and had it sewn into her gown. Since it was blue, it also served as “something blue” for her ceremony.

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3. Play their favorite song.

Did he or she have a favorite song or band? Add it to your playlist for dinner (slow song) or reception (dance music) in honor of them.

4. Create a photo table.

Display photos in picture frames on a table at your reception. Include a decorative sign, like this:

credits: left – prairie lane boutique, right – nathan westerfield via southern weddings

If you prefer, hang photos across a wood frame using twine and miniature clothespins. Or, turn wood logs into a makeshift stand with a rustic vibe.

photo credits – left: jo photo online, right rachel peters

5. Mention loved ones who have passed in your ceremony program.

In a section of your program, include a mention underneath ‘In Loving Memory’ with name(s) listed.

6. Light a candle.

At your ceremony, light a special candle in honor of loved ones who have passed.

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7. Save a seat.

Tie a ribbon on a chair, place a ‘reserved’ sign, or put a framed photograph of a loved one who passed away to save them a seat.

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Just because someone has passed away doesn’t mean they aren’t there to celebrate with you in spirit. And remember, this is a happy occasion! Smile and remember that they wouldn’t want you to be sad; they would want you to celebrate and enjoy your special day.


Need wedding advice? Just Ask Emmaline! We’re always here to help. ♥

Do you have any suggestions to add?

We’d love to read your suggestions. Let us know how you plan to honor loved ones who have passed at your wedding. You can add a comment below.