When it comes to your perfect wedding day, it starts with perfect vendors. Let’s face it: wedding vendors make or break your day! Wedding blogs help you find inspiration; handmade vendors create one-of-a-kind pieces, decor, and must-have items; wedding planners turn inspiration into fruition (and work tirelessly to coordinate every single detail), and wedding photographers capture it all for years to come. Hair stylists and makeup artists help you look your best, while seamstresses ensure your dress fits like a glove. Officiants make your ceremony memorable (and meaningful). Wedding videographers turn your memories into a full-length film to relive over and over again. Disc jockeys and bands entertain guests and provide ambiance during dinner, venue staff coordinate proper seating, lighting, and food service; and your caterer (and baker!) will be the difference between guests being satisfied (or wishing the food was better). These are just a few of the wedding vendors that make a wedding oh-so-memorable — and it takes hard work to do it. We’ve talked before about how important it is to thank your parents, how to perform random acts of wedding kindness, and 10 rules to keep your bridesmaids happy. Tipping is important, but it’s also essential to thank your wedding vendors by showing them your appreciation. Today, we’re showing you how to thank your wedding vendors right from the start. Read on to find out more PLUS enter for a chance to win a set of beautiful thank you cards from the lovely Sarka of Citrus Press. Let’s begin, shall we?
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Thank Your Wedding Vendors
1. Don’t compare one vendor to another.
I see this happen so often: someone wants a particular handmade product and they ask another artist to make it for cheaper, essentially ripping off the design. Not only is it unfair to the originator, but it’s rude to look at someone’s work and then say, ‘Hmm, your work is nice but I’d really rather pay you to do THEIR work, and much cheaper”. If you really want something, pay for it. Same applies to wedding photographers: don’t contact one photographer and ask him or her to copy another photographer’s style for a lower price. It’s rude.
2. Only hire them if you can afford their services plus a tip.
Once a particular vendor gives you a price, that’s pretty much the price (and don’t forget to tip – see #6). There are some opportunities for negotiation, but only under very specific circumstances. It doesn’t hurt to ask, but most venues or vendors have a set price based on the amount of work (and staff) it takes to do an exceptional job. Don’t try to knock it down by saying, “Well, so-and-so charges less” — then hire so-and-so! Hard work = proper compensation.
3. Be honest.
There’s this new trend where some engaged couples are booking venues, hair appointments, or ordering cakes (just to name a few) and saying it’s just for a ‘party’ to get a better rate than the ‘wedding’ price. Don’t do that. They’ll see right through you: don’t be dishonest.
4. Treat them with kindness.
Be kind, just like your momma taught you.
5. Be forthright with what you want.
Vendors are not mind-readers. Thank your wedding vendors in advance by being very specific about what you want. Don’t assume the D.J. knows not to play a certain song during the reception (unless you tell him/her) or freak out when the photographer didn’t get a picture of you with your grandparents. If you want your eye makeup subtle, tell your makeup artist — and, fortheloveofcosmetics let her give you a trial run first! Your reception tables? Go over the final look before the wedding (instead of sweating when they look different in your mind’s eye). Be very specific. Most wedding vendors are more than happy to work with you to make your dreams = reality.
6. Tip them appropriately.
The #1 way to thank your wedding vendors? By tipping them for a job well done. Here’s a tipping cheat sheet to get you started.
7. Be flexible.
Be flexible when something does not go as planned. If something happens that is unexpected — i.e. your cake is not delivered on time, the venue has a heating issue, the disc jockey forgot to bring a particular track — it is unfortunate, however most vendors are just as bummed as you. They’ll most likely try their best to make the most out of the circumstances, so try to be flexible.
8. Don’t leave a negative review, unless…
Don’t leave a negative review for a vendor unless you’ve a) let them know you were not happy with a particular service AND b) they did not work with you to correct it, during or after the wedding. Reviews are so important to wedding vendors and help them to have new clients in the future. You should, however, leave a less-than-happy review if a vendor was exceptionally poor, didn’t care that you were unhappy, AND did not try to make it better. Or, never showed. Or, a wedding vendor disappeared after being paid, never to be heard from again. That’s awful. It helps to look out for other brides-to-be.
9. Say thank you.
Often. And mean it.
Now that you know how to thank your wedding vendors, we’re giving you some thank you cards to do it! Find out more below.
Giveaway: Win 50 Thank You Cards!
When you’re ready to thank your wedding vendors, parents, wedding party, and friends and family for making your wedding amazing, you’ll need pretty thank you cards to start! We’ve teamed up with Citrus Press to offer 50 thank you cards and envelopes to one lucky reader. Here’s a preview of the thank you cards and the envelope color choices:
o Enter between 6/27/14-7/4/14 (11:59pm EST) using giveaway form below
Beautiful flora botanical inspired Thank You cards are A2 in size and printed on heavy card stock. These also come with 50 white envelopes, ready for you to write to your guests or can be used for any occasion as it never hurts to say Thank You.
o Winner will be randomly selected and announced on 7/5; winner announced on this blog post and emailed
o Winner has 72 hours to respond to email or new winner will be selected
o No purchase necessary
o Winner has 3 months to claim prize
o Prize value: $125.00
o Free shipping included anywhere.
o Past giveaway winners within 30 days not eligible to win
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o No cash value
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