If you’re planning your wedding vows, you might be wondering: do I need vow books? Or can I just read from my phone, a sheet of paper, or even memorize my vows? Trust me, you’re not alone in this question!
When I first started helping couples with their weddings, vow books were something I didn’t think much about — until I realized just how much they can elevate the moment and ease nerves. So, let’s dive into the what, why, and how of vow books, and whether you really need them for your big day.
Throughout this post, we’re utilizing the beautiful Etsy shop, Kindly Letter Co., my highly-recommended place to buy vow books for your wedding. Staci is an amazing artist. 🌠
Let’s get into it!
What Are Vow Books, Anyway?
Vow books are tiny, beautifully crafted books designed specifically to hold your wedding vows. They’re typically small enough to fit comfortably in your hands and often come with pretty covers, from rustic leather to floral prints or elegant calligraphy.
The idea is simple: instead of holding a loose sheet of paper or your phone, you have a special little book that feels meaningful and helps keep your vows safe and easy to read.
Why Use Vow Books?
1. It Keeps Your Vows Organized and Easy to Read
Wedding days are emotional, and nerves run high. It’s super common to forget lines or get shaky hands when holding a crumpled piece of paper. Vow books keep your vows neat, in order, and easy to reference so you don’t lose your place.
2. They Look Beautiful and Thoughtful
Vow books add a sweet, intentional touch to your ceremony photos. Plus, holding a little book looks a lot more polished and romantic than reading from your phone or a scrap of paper. It’s a small detail that adds up to a big moment.
3. They Can Be a Keepsake
After your wedding, your vow books become a cherished memento you can keep forever. It’s a physical reminder of your promises and your day — something you can pull out on anniversaries or share with future generations.
But Do You Need Vow Books?
Honestly, the answer is: No, you don’t have to have vow books.
Here’s the truth: Your vows can be read from anywhere — a phone, printed paper, or even just from memory — as long as it feels comfortable and authentic to you.
However, vow books do help with:
- Reducing nervous fumbling
- Keeping your vows private and secure
- Making your ceremony photos look polished
- Giving you a special keepsake
If you’re the type who wants to have everything just right and you love the idea of something personal and pretty in your hands, vow books are a great investment. If you’re laid-back and confident you’ll remember your vows or don’t mind reading off your phone, that’s perfectly okay too!
Tips If You Decide to Use Vow Books
- Choose a Size That’s Comfortable: You want something small enough to hold easily but big enough for your handwriting or printed vows.
- Keep Them Simple: Vow books don’t have to be fancy. Handmade or minimalist options work beautifully.
- Practice Reading From Them: The last thing you want is to struggle with the book during your ceremony, so try practicing at home.
- Coordinate with Your Officiant: Make sure your officiant knows if you plan to read your vows from a book — it can help with timing.
Final Thoughts on “Do I Need Vow Books?”
You don’t need vow books, but they do add a special touch to your ceremony and help keep your vows secure and beautiful. If you want to feel calm, prepared, and have a meaningful keepsake, vow books are definitely worth considering.
At the end of the day, it’s your wedding and your vows — whatever makes you feel most comfortable and connected is the right choice.
Want to see some gorgeous vow book ideas? You can find some gorgeous ones at [here]. Or you can found some of my favorite vow books you can snag on Etsy and beyond. For more styles that range from rustic charm to luxe elegance, I’m rounding up my favorite vow books here: there’s something for every wedding style!
If you’re still on the fence about vow books or have questions, drop a comment or reach out! I’m here to help you make every detail of your day perfect — one vow at a time. 💕
Happy Planning!
xo
Emma
