When it comes to planning your wedding, one exciting task is asking bridesmaids to be a part of it. Once you’ve set the date and location, you’re ready to choose your bridesmaids. And when you do, it’s nice to give a bridesmaid ask gift with your sweet proposal.
Since you only get one shot at giving the perfect “Be My Bridesmaid” gift, and one chance to ask, we’re going to help you make it ultra-memorable with this guide. In it, you’ll find the most thoughtful bridesmaid asking gifts that’ll totally make them say, YASSSSSS! ;)
We’ll also cover answers to questions like when to pop the question, the best time to ask bridesmaids, and what to include with your gift. You may be surprised at what you need to include in the card, but it’s helpful to know.
Let’s go! You have some bridesmaid asking to do. :)
Gifts to Ask Bridesmaids to Be In Your Wedding
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► When To Ask Bridesmaids to Be In Your Wedding
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► Best Bridesmaid Ask Gifts: The Full List
• Pairs Well Bottle Label
• Confetti Popper
• Bridesmaid Jewelry Dish
• Team Bride Socks
• Photo Puzzle
• Bridesmaid Wooden Wine Box
• Bride’s Babes Wine Glasses
► Be My Bridesmaid Cards
First, let’s talk about what a bridesmaid asking gift is.
A “bridesmaid ask” present is a gift given to ask your bridesmaids if they’ll be in your wedding. It is nice to formally ask, and while a gift isn’t required, it is an extra-special touch.
You may be wondering… when do you give the gift? When do you ask bridesmaids? Here are some further details on the topic.
When To Ask Bridesmaids and Give a Gift
The best time to present a gift and pop the question to bridesmaids is as soon as you know the date and location of your wedding.
You want to give them enough information to make an informed decision, as being a bridesmaid or Maid of Honor isn’t something to take lightly. There are roles involved with being a MOH or bridesmaid, some of which involve costs.
With proper planning and giving enough notice of the wedding date — 9 months or more is appreciated for travel arrangements, saving money, and logistics purposes — your bridesmaids will most likely give you an enthusiastic YASSSSS!!!! (Note: YASSSSS!!! means yes, in an excited scream usually done while jumping up and down). :)
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Before you give the gift and ask, here are some things to include with it.
What To Include With A Bridesmaid Asking Present
When you ask, be sure to present the gift with a card and your own handwritten note inside.
A small token gift makes a nice gesture and is a sweet way to ask her to be an attendant in your wedding party. Any of these gifts in our list below will do.
Don’t overthink it: select something that she will enjoy and don’t worry about it being extravagant.
Keep It Simple
The idea behind a bridesmaid ask present is: keep it simple. You don’t need to spend lots of money to ask, nor do you need to worry about giving an expensive present.
Include a card with your gift. It is extremely helpful to include the following details inside of it.
• Her Name + Thoughtful Message
Include her name so it’s personalized; write a small blurb about how much she means to you / how you wish for her to be a bridesmaid or Maid of Honor / how much fun you’ll have / etc.
• Your Name
Sign your name
• The Wedding Date
Bonus points if you customize it on the front of the card with your wedding colors!
• The Location of the Wedding
Not sure just yet? Give an approximate location. She simply needs to know if this is a local wedding or will require travel.
• Fabric Swatch
This is optional, as it may be too soon to know just yet. But if you know what your main wedding colors are, it’s nice to include a fabric swatch of the proposed bridesmaid dress color. If not, you may omit this one.
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Now… for the gifts!
Here are some gift suggestions so you know exactly what kind of gift to give when asking bridesmaids to be in your wedding. These are all from independent makers in the Minted Marketplace, where you can find even more bridesmaid gift ideas here for asking and saying thank you after the wedding.
Best Bridesmaid Ask Gifts
1. + 2. “Pairs Well With Being a Bridesmaid” Bottle Label, $5
Simply peel and stick this label onto a bottle of her favorite blend and give it as a proposal gift. It’s an affordable bridesmaid asking gift that looks beautiful, is thoughtful, and will definitely have her saying “yes” as you toast to the upcoming nuptials. By The Pretty Little Mess.
There’s a style for mini champagne bottles:
Or regular wine bottles:
3. Be My Bridesmaid Popper, $12
This adorable push up popper is filled with paper confetti and has a secret bridesmaid proposal message inside a sliding gift box. The message says “I can’t say I DO without you!” And asks to be your Bridesmaid or Maid of Honor. Popper is even reusable after use to keep the fun going! By Kelly Yaep.
4. + 5. Engraved Jewelry Dish, $23.95
Ring dishes aren’t just for The Bride! These sweet jewelry dishes make brilliant bridesmaid asking gifts, too. Engrave it with her initial and add a bridesmaid proposal card for an extra-special ask. By Charlotte Noordzij.
Or this dish with her name and her constellation (how cool is that?!)
6. + 7. Team Bride Socks, $8 – $12
Prefer a grippy sock? These adorable Bridesmaid socks have their title written on the bottom in a comfy non-slip grippy writing. By Kasey Webb.
8. Be My Bridesmaid Puzzle, $42
9. Wood Wine Box, $69
10. Bride’s Babes Wine Glasses, $40 for 11
Popping the question to your crew over brunch? Surprise them with these shatterproof bride’s babes wine glasses that you can toast together and they can enjoy for all the upcoming festivities. By Samantha Marshall.
11. + 12. Candle, $22
Or this specific, “Be My Bridesmaid?” candle, also by Aria Bella Candles.
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Be My Bridesmaid Proposal Cards
Last but not least, don’t forget the card! Here are some charming cards to put with a bridesmaid ask present.
► Find more card designs for popping the question here.