Are you wondering who gets a boutonniere at a wedding?
Ah, yes… this is a good question to ask yourself since you probably don’t want to forget anyone (oops!) or order way too many. Together, we’ll find the perfect balance for your wedding!
(TIP | Here’s how to say boutonniere: it sounds like ‘boot-in-ear’!) :)
In this post, we’ll tell you what a boutonniere is, do ushers get boutonnieres (a frequently asked question!), and your go-to guide on wedding bouts.
What is a Boutonniere?
What is it? Good question: a boutonniere is a flower that is typically worn on the lapel of a suit jacket or tuxedo. While many boutonnieres today can be creative alternatives to traditional flowers, most are a single flower bloom with greenery; the bloom typically matches the color palette of the wedding.
Do You Have to Wear a Boutonniere?
Well, have to and should you are two very different things.
• Should you wear a boutonniere? Absolutely.
• Do you have to? Not necessarily, since it’s your wedding. :)
But I’m here to steer you in the right direction… so, etiquette-wise, yes, at most weddings, the gentlemen wear boutonnieres of some kind.
Now that you know what a boutonniere is, let’s talk about who wears one.
Who Gets Boutonnieres at Weddings?
Here is the ultimate list of how many boutonnieres you’ll need for your wedding.
The groom gets a boutonniere at a wedding! And of course, his can be different than the other bouts in order to stand out, if he’d wish.
The Best Man also receives a wedding boutonniere to wear.
All groomsmen need a boutonniere to wear and these should all match.
Fathers of the bride/groom need a wedding boutonniere.
It is nice to give a boutonniere to honor grandfather(s) in attendance at your wedding.
It is also traditional to give a boutonniere to a godfather or godfathers, if in attendance at your wedding.
The ushers in your wedding get boutonnieres.
And last but not least, don’t forget one for the ring bearer!
Now, add those all up and you’ll have the total number of how many boutonnieres to order for your wedding. Give this number to your florist. Done!
Here’s an easy image you can pin, screenshot, or print out so you don’t forget!
And if fresh flowers aren’t your thing… you can order boutonnieres that are handmade (they last forever) here on Etsy. These beautiful boutonniere alternatives are perfect for the couple who wants something custom. As a bonus, they won’t bother people with allergies… won’t wilt/don’t require refrigeration… and can be purchased ahead of time. Win-win-win.
And yes, she offers a ton of beautiful corsages to match, too!
Where a Bout is Worn
Finally, where do you wear the boutonniere? The boutonniere is pinned to the left lapel.
Plus, here’s a vlog describing all of this in a short video below.
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Hope it helps!