Hello, loves! Today we’re talking about bridesmaid gift giving. As everyone knows, no two bridesmaids are the same. When my sister planned her wedding, she hand-selected each detail from the handmade cake topper she crafted with her friend right down to the bridesmaid gifts. To top it off, she hand-picked each member of her bridal party something different because she knew we each possess a unique style. Today we’re inspiring you to take Elise’s advice. As with all great gifts, it’s the thought that counts. You only get one chance at giving a bridesmaid gift and today we’re helping you to make it great. We’ll show you why to give a gift, why hand-selecting each bridesmaid gift is important, the bridesmaid gift to avoid, when to give the gifts, and more. Read on for the rules…
5 Rules for Bridesmaid Gift Giving
First, it’s important to understand why to give a gift. A bridesmaid gift is a way to say thank you for being a part of your wedding. When you’re a bridesmaid, you give a lot of time, attention, and money to make the wedding perfect for the bride. This can include helping with the shower, planning the bachelorette party, answering a million questions from the bride, and spending money on things like a bridesmaid dress, hair, makeup, shoes, and gifts for the shower, bachelorette, and wedding. That’s a lot of work! Give your bridesmaid (or Maid of Honor) a great gift that is both thoughtful and sincere – she’ll appreciate it! Now… onto the rules!
Rule #1: Hand-select a gift for each bridesmaid.
As I mentioned above, it’s important to hand-select each bridesmaid gift. If you’re buying online, look at reviews of items before buying; understand the store’s return policy before making your purchase. You can, of course, buy the same gift for each bridesmaid (like robes, for instance) as long as it suits each woman’s unique style. If she doesn’t wear jewelry, for instance, or a dressing robe is something she already has (or would never wear), skip it. Her interests can also help when gift giving: is she crazy about a particular hobby? A bridesmaid gift should (and can!) her interests. As one example, if she is an avid reader, consider a custom bookmark or handmade cover for her e-reader.
Does she like to travel? A custom passport case or personalized luggage tags may be perfect for her.
Coffee-lover? Consider a coffee-of-the-month club (try MistoBox or I Have A Bean – both offer subscriptions, coffee gift packs, and artisan-style beans). Or, gift one of these DIY tumblers, a monogram initial coffee mug for home, or sugar and coffee spoons. A gift card to her favorite coffee shop (or an excessive amount of these, my favorite gift to receive) is one gift the coffee-lover is sure to use (+ enjoy).
Does she love sailing? Consider a nautical-inspired piece, like this nautical knot bracelet.
Rule #2: Make sure the gift is re-wearable or re-usable.
Not sure on a particular hobby? Consider a gift she can wear again. A custom dressing robe is one such gift. (Plus, bridesmaids can wear ’em for getting ready photos).
Another example of a gift she can (and will) wear again is custom jewelry. I love this sweet little namesake necklace + initial necklace…
Rule #3: The Bridesmaid Gift to Avoid
While popular, gifts that say ‘bridesmaid’ are great for giving to bridesmaids as an additional gift item – not the main gift. This is because a robe, sweatshirt, t-shirt, piece of jewelry, or bag that reads ‘bridesmaid’ will only be used for the wedding or just before; afterward, you can bet they won’t use it. If you want to give your bridal party those bridesmaid inspired gifts, be sure to include a hand-picked gift with it just for her.
Rule #4: The Best Time for Bridesmaid Gift Giving
The best time to give your bridesmaid gift is the morning of the wedding, either while getting ready or sometime before the ceremony especially if the gift is for getting ready (a robe), carried (a clutch), or worn (jewelry). If the gift is for the home or hobby-related, give the gift at the rehearsal dinner so she doesn’t have to carry it around or find a place to store it at the wedding.
Rule #5: Include a hand-written card with your gift.
Always include a hand-written card and wrap the gift. Say thank you for standing up in your wedding, be specific about why you value your friendship, and be sincere. She’ll love the gift, but she’ll really appreciate your sincerity.