How to Keep Your Flower Girl Happy (5 Surefire Steps)

We typically focus on the bride, the groom, or the bridal party as a whole, but there is one important person in your bridal party you don’t want to overlook: your flower girl! She is the one who looks up to you and wants to make you proud, even if she feels too scared to walk down the aisle and scatter the petals around for you. To make her feel less nervous on the big day and show her how special she is to the wedding ceremony, follow these five surefire steps we’ve devised on how to keep your flower girl happy. After all, the only tears seen on your wedding day ought to be your own (and those are happy ones, of course!) Begin reading the five steps after the jump!


How to Keep Your Flower Girl Happy

1. Give her a pretty dress to wear. This one’s easy. If you want her to be happy, she ought to be comfortable. We love these eco-friendly handmade flower girl dresses by the lovely Olive & Fern as an example:

how to keep your flower girl happy
how to keep your flower girl happy
how to keep your flower girl happy

dresses by olive & fern

2. Give her a gift of jewelry such as a pretty wrist corsage. A soft floral accessory she can wear around her wrist will be comfortable + airy enough to wear on the wedding day and beyond!

how to keep your flower girl happy
how to keep your flower girl happy

wrist corsages above by poppy and pearl co.

3. Include her in “big girl” items with just-for-her miniature versions. She’ll feel like a special part of the bridal party with her version of items bridesmaids are using like these mason jar tumblers (complete with a straw and lid for no spillage on her pretty new dress)…

how to keep your flower girl happy

mason jar tumblers (both, above) by poppy and pearl co.

… or a pretty clutch made in a miniature version to fit in tiny hands, but identical to match the bridesmaids.

how to keep your flower girl happy

miniature clutch by eclu

how to keep your flower girl happy

miniature clutch in bright yellow by lolos

4. Opt for a flower girl wand instead of a traditional basket and petal routine. Tossing petals down the aisle may seem intimidating to first-time flower girls. As an alternative, you could ask her to carry something easier instead – like a flower girl wand, which we love – so she can carry something that makes her feel like a princess. Plus, she can keep it after the wedding and it will never wilt. For inspiration, check out this beautiful bloom in blue by Blume Bloom

how to keep your flower girl happy

… and another favorite by Maihar Design for the flower girl who prefers pink…

5. Keep her warm! A little chill in the air, particularly late fall or winter weddings, can make anyone uncomfortable. Gift your flower girl a special sweater or custom handmade cardigan to wear to keep her toasty warm after the ceremony so she has fun out on the dance floor.

how to keep your flower girl happy

grey sweater with flower by lil threadz clothing

how to keep your flower girl happy

And, a few things that also might help is a candy buffet (kids of all ages love it, adults included!) or a bag of her favorite candy like gummi bears; a toy or some games with which to play; a few twirls out on the dance floor with her favorite bride; and, of course, a ring bearer or another flower girl with whom she can run around with at the reception. It doesn’t take much to make her happy but a few of these above tips will definitely keep her smiling all day long!


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