Wondering what to register for when you already have pretty much everything you need? What about what to register for when you already live together, or already have a house? How do you register for cash for your wedding?!
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Questions, questions, questions! Well, we’re here to help.
Our latest podcast on wedding etiquette struck a chord with bride-to-be, Melissa, because she wrote us about her latest conundrum and wanted some advice.
“Hi Emmaline Bride, I heard your podcast and you mentioned that everyone should make a wedding registry even if you are already living together. I feel like my fiance and I have most things suitable for a registry. So I guess I’m wondering, what to register for when you have everything? We could always use cash but that’s not really a good thing to tell people. Any thoughts? Thanks for your input.”
Hey Melissa, and great question: what to register for when you have everything. If a couple already lives together, or they don’t but have their own spaces with enough pots, pans, flatware, towels and sheet sets to be set for the next 20 years or so. :) It might not feel right to ask for things you don’t really need, want, or could really use.
On the other hand, maybe your stuff is in need of replacing, at which case I don’t think it’s a bad idea to register for things you really need to replace, or would like to have. No one will think any differently of you for having a registry if you already live together, and that’s because the gifts are for you as a married couple. Guests want to buy things from your registry you’ll enjoy together.
So, if pots, pans, mixers, and more don’t delight you, aren’t things you’ll enjoy together, and you simply don’t need, how do you register for cash for your wedding? Ask for a honeymoon? Gift cards for future expenses? Here are some tips.
What to Register for When You Have Everything
First and foremost, I think it is great for every couple to have a registry, even if you just add a few tangible items you like and would actually use as a couple.
These might be things you wouldn’t necessarily buy yourselves, but heck, you would totally love to have.
For instance, there was this cappuccino + latte + espresso maker I saw here and I thought, omg, that thing is what wedding registry dreams are made of.
Do I need more coffee? No. Do I need to make cappuccinos, lattes, or espressos on demand? Probably not. Would it be pretty cool to have one, if we were super into making specialty coffee drinks and would entertain or really use the heck out of that thing? Yes! That’s just one example.
Another thing might be a wedding photo frame like this, or one of these:
Ask for or a ring dish like this or maybe even that KitchenAid stand mixer that everyone adds to their registry (except me because I was all like, no, I’m not following the crowd, and now I’m thinking, hey, I could use one of those bad boys).
Have you SEEN it in aqua? It’s beautiful.
A pair of champagne flutes for your wedding day, and future anniversaries? A good idea, for sure.
But anyways, back to it.
Maybe kitchen gadgets and bathroom towels don’t dazzle you, and maybe you have more than you need.
If you don’t know what to register for when you already have everything you need/want, go for an alternative.
But it’s a more polite / etiquette-friendly way to ask for cash for your wedding. :) Here, I’ll show you.
How to Register for Cash for Your Wedding
Register for Cash for Wedding
One tactful way to register for cash for your wedding is by using Honeyfund.
With Honeyfund, you can set up a FREE wedding registry and register for money. You can add the website link to your wedding website (you can get a free website here), as well as in your wedding shower invite.
Here’s something MANY people don’t know about this service: it’s designed for honeymoons, but it is not limited to honeymoons alone.
You can register for anything: down-payment on a house, honeymoon trip, home wares, kitchen things, whatever you want/need from virtually anywhere. Even cash.
Register for Your Honeymoon
So you said you wanted to know what to register for when you have everything? Well, you probably don’t have a honeymoon laying around your house, now do you? :)
Honeyfund lets you register for cash, as mentioned; but you can also choose your destination and then allows guests to contribute to your honeymoon fund easily, safely, and securely.
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In addition to being a great alternative to registering for home wares, Honeyfund partners with big names in travel to score you deals on lodging, accommodations, and airfare. Sign up FREE here.
Word to the Wise
My only advice here: don’t “trick” your guests. Don’t register for a honeymoon if you have no intention of going on a honeymoon with those funds and instead using money for something else. That’s not cool.
Guests want to buy you things you’ll use and/or need: so be specific about what you WILL be using the money for and everyone wins.
So, if you use your registry for the purpose of booking a super awesome cruise to the Caribbean Islands, go for it! And then share those fun travel pics with your guests.
On the other hand, if you use those funds from guests to get a deposit for a house, or buy something not sold in typical stores, or to decorate your home together, then do it! And share your experience with guests with a few snapshots.
See, people don’t mind if you register for cash for your wedding. In fact, giving money is sometimes easier for guests than looking at those pages printed at BB&B and going aisle to aisle looking for the beige and striped comforter or moving on to the pillows or the pie plates because it’s already purchased. ;) We’ve all been there.
But guests most of all want to know their money is going to something you really need or want, not just handing over money because you want it.
Honeyfund is pretty awesome and you should definitely check it out ASAP. You can even use it in conjunction with a more “classic” registry choice, like Amazon’s cool registry.
Just include both on your enclosure cards or bridal shower invitation and guests will know where to go.
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See how to register for cash for your wedding here!
Anyways, hope it helps! Thanks, Melissa, for writing (and listening to our podcast!)
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My best friend asked their guest options for their honeymoon, and that was such an awesome idea !
We could add some extra fancy masterking suite booking at their hotel, or add a scuba diving afternoon, or just a fancy restaurant reservation, or a wine tasting…
It was easy to find something that matches with my own personnality and would reflect a gift from me to them.
Great suggestion, Sandrine! I like how there are now so many options available for couples. Thanks for stopping by. :)
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