What Does the Maid of Honor Pay For?

When my sister (aka bestie) asked me to be her Maid of Honor, I wanted to do the best job possible. But I wasn’t sure of all the roles… and I had no idea what I was supposed to pay for. I had so many questions: How much does a Maid of Honor have to pay for? What are normal MOH expenses? Do I need to pay for the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, or the bride’s makeup? I searched everywhere, but couldn’t find a clear answer that wasn’t vague or outdated. I didn’t mind paying for them, but I wanted to make sure I covered ALL the bases (she’s my sister, after all). So, I started googling things like “what does the maid of honor pay for?” and fell down a rabbit hole of confusing advice and Reddit horror stories.

If you’re here, you’re probably slightly overwhelmed and wondering if you need to start saving money ASAP. You want to be the best Maid of Honor ever, without draining your savings account. Totally fair.

You’re likely wondering what being Maid of Honor really costs, what you should pay for as the Maid of Honor, and what you’re expected to spend. Feeling overwhelmed? That’s normal. And you’ve come to the right place.

We’re breaking down everything the Maid of Honor is usually responsible for from bridal shower expenses to bachelorette trip costs, travel, gifts, and wedding day glam so you can budget smart and focus on what matters: showing up for your bestie on one of the biggest days of her life.

Before you say “yes” to the dress, the group chats, the late-night DIYs, the bach bash, and all the duties that come with it, here’s exactly what the Maid of Honor pays for (and what’s totally optional) in 2025.

This guide will walk you through exactly what the Maid of Honor typically pays for — what’s expected, what’s optional, and how to budget like a pro while still making it the most unforgettable experience for your best friend. Let’s break it all down.

What Does the Maid of Honor Pay For?

While every wedding is different, here’s a breakdown of the most common expenses a Maid of Honor typically covers:

• Bridesmaid Dress + Alterations
  You’ll likely pay for your own dress and any needed tailoring. Most brides let you choose a style within a color palette, but sometimes the MOH dress is unique (and possibly more expensive).
• Shoes and Accessories
  From shoes to jewelry to undergarments, expect to budget for the full look.
• Hair, Makeup, and Nails
  Some brides cover this cost, but many don’t. Ask early on what’s expected. Hair and makeup services average $100–$300 depending on your location.
• Bridal Shower Planning
  Traditionally, the Maid of Honor hosts or co-hosts the shower which can include paying for decor, food, favors, games, and more. Many opt to split costs with bridesmaids or family members.
• Bachelorette Party Costs
  The MOH usually plans the party and helps cover the bride’s share. You might also pay extra for group activities, decorations, or surprise gifts. Costs can climb quickly if it’s a destination trip, so it’s totally OK to suggest a budget-friendly alternative!
• Travel and Lodging
  If the wedding or bachelorette party requires travel, you’re expected to cover your own flights, hotels, and transportation.
• Wedding Gift
  A thoughtful gift is still customary. Many MOHs choose to go in on a group gift or something sentimental and handmade.

Maid of Honor Expenses: What’s Optional?

Not everything is required, and not every bride expects the same level of spending. Some brides help cover hair/makeup, gift their bridal party robes or jewelry, or even contribute to hotel stays.

Here are some optional expenses you might choose to cover, but shouldn’t feel obligated to:

• Your custom MOH robe or getting-ready outfit
• Extra decorations for the shower or bachelorette party
• Covering the bride’s hotel room, meals, or flight

Tip: Set a budget and communicate it early. Most brides will appreciate your honesty and want you to feel comfortable… not stretched too thin.

📊 Real Talk: How Much Does It All Cost?

Here’s a look at the average costs for a Maid of Honor in 2025:

Read: Here’s EXACTLY How Much to Spend on a Wedding Cash Gift

All in, a Maid of Honor can easily spend between $1,200 to $3,000+ depending on the events and location.

How to Set Boundaries and Budget Smart

You don’t have to say yes to everything. You’re allowed to say:

• “I’d love to help plan the shower, but I can’t host at my house.”
• “I’m in for the bachelorette weekend, but I’ll need to skip the spa day.”
• “I can contribute $200 toward the party, does that help us hit our budget?”

Setting expectations early will make the experience better for everyone involved, especially you.

Maid of Honor Money FAQs

Does the Maid of Honor pay for the bride’s hair or makeup?

No, unless you’ve offered or the group decides to split the cost. The bride typically pays for her own glam.

Should the MOH cover the bride’s share of the bachelorette party?

It’s a tradition, not a rule. Many groups split it evenly. Always check in before assuming anything!

What if I can’t afford to be MOH?

It’s okay to say no. Or you can accept the role and set very clear boundaries about your availability and budget.

Final Thoughts

Being the Maid of Honor is about love, support, and showing up; not overspending or saying yes to everything. Every bride is different, and every budget is too. Talk it out, set limits, and focus on making memories that don’t come with credit card regret.

Need help staying on track? Get our free Maid of Honor Planning Guide to plan every penny and avoid surprises!

You’ve got this: she’s lucky to have you by her side.

Happy Planning!

xo

Emma